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Please help me build the courage to leave my abusive boyfriend.

Q.   My boyfriend has verbally abused and verbally abused and verbally abused me for months. He blamed it on the fact that he was going through a rough time in his Life and that it would pass as soon as he found a job. He has found a job and it hasn'...

A.   22 December 2008: !!!Do It Now!!! You have no time to build up the courage and the way he works is to break your confidence down, so as long as you are with him he will continue this pattern to dominate you. This is a very similar situation to what happen... (read in full...)

What's with the sudden anal sex craze?

Q.   I'm 45 and over the course of the last 4 years I have dated 3 guys and each one of them requested to have anal sex. My boyfriend of 7 years before never asked for this........what's up with the anal sex craze and why is it so much better than ...

A.   22 December 2008: From my perspective, I love and prefer anal sex, maybe because it's still taboo and relatively unmentionable in normal society. I guess porn has had a part to play in its current popularity. In my own experience, I didn't even realis... (read in full...)

He anally raped me, treated me like a toy. Should I finish with him?

Q.   me and my boyfriend were having sex the other night, and he asked me for anal. I've done it once before with him and didnt really enjoy it but it didnt hurt so i thought it would be fine again, not realising last time i dont it i was very drunk ...

A.   22 December 2008: Oh Grow Up! Posts like this make me angry. Your nearly in your mid - 20's and you're acting like a helpless 10yr old. Do you have Doormat stamped on your forehead? If he really is this much of a prick, vote with your feet and leave hi... (read in full...)

Why are women expected to degrade themselves for men's pleasure, but not vice versa?

Q.   I do not understand why it is almost expected of women to degrade themselves to please men when men won't do the same for us. Men's minds are so poisoned by the porn industry that they think it is NORMAL for women to take it in the ass and so on. I ...

A.   22 December 2008: Oh Grow-Up... Sorry, but the lights have gone out in fragile, Victim town and the tumble weeds are blowing down Whimp street. It's time to graduate to Adults-ville. In Adultsville people are free to decide their likes and dislikes, to p... (read in full...)

Is the "bum" considered a sexual organ?

Q.   My husband and I had an argument this morning about anal sex. He doesn't want to do it because he says the bum isn't a sexual organ. Is that true?...

A.   22 December 2008: You're both right kind of... The "bum" isn't a "reproductive organ", if that is what he was meaning by "sexual" any more than the mouth or even the breasts! This is a very narrow definition of sexual though and could lead to even saying the ... (read in full...)

I really want to try anal but it was so messy! How do I do it so it's not?

Q.   This is probably a weird question.. well what it is is i want to try anal.. the other day me and my boyfriend attempted to do it but it hurt too much and 'messy stuff' you know what i mean was on his penis.. is this normal because i was sooo ...

A.   22 December 2008: This is probably a weird answer, but I gave up caring what the straight-laced vanilla moral majority thought police decreed as "normal" a long time ago... You may be embarrassed by the unanticipated events, don't take for granted your boyfriend w... (read in full...)

Do all men prefer anal sex and why? I do it to quench my husband's curiosity that drove him to an affair.

Q.   please do all men prefer anal sex and why, i dont care for it my husband does....i am having a hard time because he was in an affair in trying this anal stuff out i think this is the curiousity that he proposed to some whore on the net and ended up ...

A.   22 December 2008: I do prefer anal, most of the time. Probably because it's more taboo. Also, to me it shows a woman who enjoys it is broadminded (very sexy), comfortable with her body (very sexy). Vaginal sex is not something I fantasize about as it's too mundane... (read in full...)

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