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We had sex on our first date and now he's ignoring me

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Question - (18 May 2011) 7 Answers - (Newest, 19 May 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, well a few months ago I met this guy on a bus and we got talking and it was an instant attraction. I totally fell for him we didn't exchange numbers we added each other on Facebook and I found out he had a girlfriend. I just forgot all about him after I seen that he was in a relationship but a few weeks later we started speaking a lot. We exchanged numbers and we had some flirty chat but i always pointed out that he had a girlfriend. The one day we started texting all day everyday for like 2 weeks and we started to like each other. There was so much chemistry between us and I began to really like him and he says he felt the same. He told me he would end things with his girlfriend and when I went on holiday for 5 days he says he missed speaking to me. I went to his house on Sunday and it was amazing and we slept together and it wasn't very good lol. After that he has not been the same he says he likes me but he has been really weird he sometimes ignores my texts and whenever I mention Sunday he changes the subject. Hes 6 years older than me should i just forget about him?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (19 May 2011):

Honeypie agony auntYep Yep Forget about him. I'm pretty sure he either A. didn't really break up with his GF or.. he is back with her now.

Besides the sex was bad..

Mehh no need to cry over split milk.

Next time.. take the time to get to know a guy before hitting the sheets.

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A male reader, Odds United States +, writes (18 May 2011):

Odds agony auntIf you are willing to sleep with a guy on the first date, he won't respect you. If you're willing to be with a guy who will dump his girlfriend just to be with you, he won't respect you. If he doesn't respect you, he won't bother to make the sex good for you, too.

Additionally, if a guy is willing to dump a girl to be with you, why wouldn't he be willing to treat you the same way?

Basically, even an otherwise decent guy wouldn't think much of you after that, and he certainly doesn't sound like he was decent to begin with.

Consider it a learning experience. Don't put out too early, and no matter how attracted you are, avoid attached guys completely.

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A male reader, serenity80 United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2011):

I doubt he has any intention to leave his girlfriend, and I doubt he has any respectful feelings for you. He probably fancied having sex with someone much younger than him, and saw the chance at getting some free sex. Sorry to sound harsh but you come across as so naive, it would be a shame for you to get used again.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011):

Guy with girlfriend meets girl who seems to be open to having to sex (Thinks there's this amazing connection)

They have sex, the sex isn't great, back to the girlfriend. Done and dusted.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (18 May 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntWham Bam Thank You Ma'am.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011):

Just move on. All he wanted was sex and you gave it to him. He never intended on leaving his girlfriend. Stay away from men who are already involved in the future.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (18 May 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony aunti'd just forget about him hon...

and learn... never sleep with a man who's NOT available emotionally.... (i.e. a man that is partnered already)

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