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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello. Has anyone else have or have had a partner who can’t handle you being ill? I get a lot of gynaechalogical pain as I was diagnosed with endometriosis in 2003 and although it was removed, I am still having problems with pain management. I also suffer from anxiety, which I get medication for.My bf is a psychiatric nurse and he is stressed. Last night I had to see an osteopath as I am having some back problems which have become really painful. I text him last night about this and he didn’t even bother to text me back! I confronted him about this today and he said that he’d had enough of me always being ill. It’s true ina way, I have been to the doctors every week for the last couple of months or so, but mainly due to my anxiety issues, which took a nosedive recently. When he is ill I look after him, but it is in my nature to do that, not his. He comes from quite an uncaring, practical family, they are very working class and their attitude to illness is more kind of tuck your chin in, don’t moan and get on with it. My family are more middle class and I was quite spoiled as a kid and when I was ill my mum would be really over caring. I am wondering if I should accept these differences or dump him? I have realised that he is never going to be a really caring partner, although he is very physically affectionate he can be quite cruel and blunt with his words, the way I see it. Guys, is it normal for you to struggle emotionally when your girl is ill? Help please?!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): Ummm that's strange - you would think that with him being a Psychiatric nurse it would be in his interests to be caring?? Maybe he spends all his time at work having to care for others that by the time he comes home he needs to switch off and appears to not 'care' about you. He probably does but maybe doesn't know how to show it..!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 You're lucky, my husband thinks intercourse can cure any ailment. And he's very assiduous about my health and well-being.
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