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female
age
30-35,
*lumber
writes:hie here I have a problem caught in three guys.Something I brought on meself.I left my boyfriend in my home country nw its been two years without seeing each other.there was a break of communication for a period of 7 months bt now we are okay.I was raped in the year I turned 18.I told my boyfriend it took tym bt he says he understood what I went through but I dont trust him because soemtimes when he is angry tht I'm not communicating he brings up the isssue as if I slept with ssomeone behind his back.This was a painful experience for me I was a virgin.I have ben lonly so I me this guy here in Botswana from my home country and we dated for four months but unfortunately distnace had to seperate us he relocated to South Africa for job reasons.He kept quiet for three months and I thot he had moved on he has been there for five months now.In the tym he was quiet I met another guy of which we are now two months old now.I slept with him he is my first guy after the rape I slept with and the first tym I felt guilty like I was cheating I got emotional and felt violated.Now I'm drained I want to quit all this drama I have to be faithful to one guy because now they are all back the three of hem they all thing they are the only ones for me.The one I see everyday I need him but I dont love him.He is better as a friend but as much I dont want to crush him.Now sex is in the question.And the one in South Africa wants me t plan to come to him and stay there.The one back home expects me to be faithful until fate brings us close together although sometimes commuinications lacks.I need help the ting is I cant stay alone but the person I'm close to I dont love him.I love the one who is far.Help me sort myself out
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reader, Sincerely Yours  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 If you want to be happy in your life, then you need to think about what makes YOU happy every now and then.I know you are concerned for other peoples' feelings, but you have got to look out for yourself.If you're not interested in being with a guy, then you must tell him that you are only interested in his friendship.You can't be stuck in a cycle of three men for the rest of your life.You have to end it at some point, so think about it.
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