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writes:Hi all not really a question but more of an announcement! I want to tell the world but I think this is the closest I shall get!I am very excited, my beautiful goddess of a wife has just informed me we are about to have another child!! It will be our third. I already have two little princesses so its a welcome additon to our family.Now, ladies.As my wife has a medical condition that we thought prevented her having more children you can understand why we are so very happy.I would like to make her something special. Please keep in mind we live on a farm in SA so most of my shopping is done online or I make her things.I was thinking of making a cradle for the baby or do you think its outdated...thoughts?Thanks very much DS........AKA, excited dad! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): Congratulations you big Mush Ball, you!! You have been truly blessed with twins. My husband and I prayed for twins, but we didn't get them in the traditional manner. We had a girl, and then a boy 361 days later. So in essence, we have twins, and are so very proud. God Blessed us soo! Keep your head up, and your eyes focused on God, and nothing can go wrong. Once again, Congrats!!
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reader, daletom  +, writes (4 August 2008):
Multiple births are always riskier, for both mother and babies, than singles. You don't say exactly what her other medical condition is but it sounds like she will require more than routine pre-natal care over the next few months. Make sure she gets it!!
Our first 2 kids were about 3 years apart, and the last arrived almost six years later. Adding the last baby was actually easier than adding the second - maybe because the older kids were more mature, and more understanding themselves, or maybe because my wife & I were more mature and experienced as parents. His 6-year old sister became a special friend to him, almost a second mother. I don't think we had any of the jealousy and competition problems that happened with our 3-year old when his younger sister arrived.
I don't think we consciously did anything - she was just very curious and inquisitive about the baby. When it came to taking care of the baby, or playing with the baby, we let her do whatever she wanted to try, with supervision of course, as long as it was within her ability.
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reader, Devil Spawn +, writes (4 August 2008):
Devil Spawn is verified as being by the original poster of the question We went the hour and a half into town to have the ultrasound (because we are so far out we don't get them too often) well we didn't in our last pregnancies.
Anyway we will be this time, my wife is sitting at just over 4 and a half months...please Aunts dont yell at me I did notice she was not getting her period but we thought it was just because of her condition that she didnt have it. and I wouldn't notice if she gained 10000 pounds. I dont see that..I know its bad but I dont.
Anyway we are having a twins. Boys. Just thought I would give you all an update.
I am now making two cradles and have flown her parents over to see us. I pick them up tomorrow, its a surprise for her.
Soomething I was wondering about, my wife thinks it will all be fine but I am a bit of a worry wort. my little girls are the light of my life and I am worried that they won't adapt to the babies in the house. there is an age gap of nearly 4 years) any ideas on how I can get them involved more.
We let them feel and talk to my wife's stomach but I know as she gets bigger she won't want to do that all the time and I dont want to smother her. She has enough to deal with ! ha ha ha.
Thanks for all the well wishing! Its nice to know that there are people out there who care. Even if we don't know each other. And thank you all again for letting me bore you to death with my news.
Oh last note, I have arranged for my wife to get roses at the passing of each week, ie 16 roses for 16 weeks, 17 roses for 17 weeks, you get the idea... Yep its official I am totally useless and am just a huge ball of mush.
(Not being helpful to posters with problems sorry!)
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reader, daletom +, writes (2 August 2008):
Congratulations to you too, "Lotus_mama808". Pregnant women are s-o-o-o very sexy. Take good care of that little person!
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (1 August 2008):
 And, I just found out, just an hour ago that I, too, am expecting a third child. Horray for pregnant mamas!!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hey, good news! In fact, it's great news and a nice uplifting way to start my day here. Congratulations! The cradle sounds like a lovely idea, especially as you can personalize it for your family and perhaps turn it into an heirloom. How are you at rocking chairs?
Have a great BBQ and bask in the glow of the love that surrounds you and your family.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Well don't name it Devil Spawn Jr., okay?! An thank you for a good news post, Buddy!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 CONGRATULATIONS! :D
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Congratulations, what wonderful news! Wishing you and your family lots of love and happiness!
Honeygirl
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reader, daletom +, writes (31 July 2008):
Yes, congratulations are in order! To me, my pregnant wife was among the most beautiful creatures imaginable.
Depending on how old your other children are, your wife may be most appreciative of some child-free time when she can simply indulge herself. Perhaps one evening each week when you take charge of the kids and hustle them off someplace so she can do as she wishes. Or maybe an entire weekend when she can go off to visit girlfriends, attend a seminar, do a retreat, etc. (The side benefit of these suggestions is that the children will be more accustomed to interacting with you after the baby arrives, and they must accept a lower priority for mom's attention.)
Of course the cradle is a more traditional idea replete with romantic images. I had much the same idea when our last Bumble of Joy was born. I even collected several plans for cribs and cradles - I think my favorite came from "Woodsmith" magazine [ http://www.woodsmith.com/ ] but I'm sure there are many others. The project never got started. As one woodworker pointed out to me, cribs and cradles are more often built by grandfathers than by fathers.
(I did some other woodworking projects as gifts for each kid. They were used and appreciated when they were age-appropriate, but so far - as adults - my children haven't expressed any interest in having "that thing dad made for me when I was little". Perhaps the most successful project was a child's easel/desk/craft-table that I believe also came from "Woodsmith".)
Here in the U.S. there are quite a few product safety standards pertaining to the design and fabrication of children's furniture by commercial manufacturers. Of course, some of them are pretty much common sense, others are reasonable ideas, and some address rather unlikely one-in-a-billion situations. Even so, I'd feel quite awful if my child was injured as a result of something I had neglected or overlooked in a woodworking project.
Some folks will point out (accurately) that a true cradle may be used for only a few months before the child moves to a crib. In our house the outgrown cradles did service as toyboxes, magazine/newspaper catch-alls, and even today (our "baby" turns 20 next month) one is a somewhat artsy holder for a group of potted houseplants.
I'm looking forward to seeing your progress reports from time to time.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (31 July 2008):
How refreshing is it to hear someone so enthusiastic about this and not someone complaining that they're "not attracted to their wife because of her changing body." I think you have a great idea. They also have a lot of personalized gifts from www.redenvelope.com. I've ordered some stuff for my sisters when they had their babies and they loved them. And no, I wasn't paid for my free advertising :( But they do have nice stuff.
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reader, Devil Spawn +, writes (31 July 2008):
Devil Spawn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone!!
now I just have to think of names.... I get to name this one!
Cheers
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reader, Devil Spawn +, writes (31 July 2008):
Devil Spawn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello all!
No idea if it is a girl or a boy yet, as long as both my wife and baby are fine that's all a man can ask.
I am having a massive BBQ tomorrow and inviting our neighbours and family from surrounding farms.
Yes yes I agree, foot rubs, midnight food preperations, back rubs, holding hair whist vomiting, taking care of the other little ones, helping more with home duties are now all back on the cards
I honestly dont think I could be more excited if I tried!!
Sorry for rambeling on everyone....just there is not to many people to tell out this way and I want everyone to know!!
Thanks again, and I will be making the cradle out of a nice light wood.
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reader, Jia  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Congrats! Don't worry, cradles are always in style! I'm sure your wife will be thrilled by you making one!!!!
Best Wishes!
Jia!
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (31 July 2008):
Aw, congrads Papa! What a beautiful blessing! I think it is so wonderful that you want to put your energy into creating something for the new baby. First, it is important to be the great understanding, supportive person to your beautiful wife (that I already can tell you are!). Foot rubs, and quiet creating quiet time for her to kind of zen out and focus on relaxing and breathing, is the best gift you can give her. I absolutely think that a cradle is a wonderful idea for something artsy, creative and functional for the baby. Never outdated! It would be something your child will have and cherish for all it's life! I believe that the rootsy lifestyle of being somewhere that is not developed and having and enjoying the simple things in life is a great way to raise children, your family is very lucky! My husband and I live on an island, and he made a very nice basket/swing for our 2nd baby that hung from a tree, and she LOVED it. She would stare at the leaves above her and smile and hold her little hand out. It was a place where she was comfertable and could enjoy nature. Of all the things we will remember about her as a baby it will always be of her in that swing. So, I think your idea is fantastic, thoughtful and full of loving energy. I am so happy for you! Do you know if it a male or female, or do you two want to keep it a suprise? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): Oh, sweetie, I think a cradle would be absoultly awsome. It shows that you truly love her, and think enough of her to make her a special cradle. In years to come your children will love and cherish a made from the heart gift. You are such a wonderfull Daddy. Your wife and children are blessed to have you. Take pride in yourself. You are one of a kind.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Congratualations!!
I think it sounds wonderful, I wish you and your family all the best!
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