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writes:I am seeing a guy who when I asked says he doesn’t do kissing and affection. I was widowed 9 years ago and this is the first since. I really like this guy but not sure about not kissing although the sex is great. I told him I kind of fell like a prostitute He was married and divorced 2 x Help with good answers only. Thanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2017):
 If he makes you feel like a prostitute then he is not the man for you. If you want sex then great, but it sounds to me like you want more and he is not prepared to give you any more. If he doesn't show you affection or won't even kiss you then it seems he is simply not that interested.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (11 October 2017):
 Do you want to live the rest of your life without kissing or affection from him? Are you happy never to share that level of intimacy again? If so, stay with him. If not, then you deserve more. Dump him before you become (ex)wife #3 on his list.
I have to ask, why do you think you don't deserve to be treated with affection? Regardless of what his other good qualities might be (and I have to assume he has SOME good qualities, otherwise why would you be with him?), if he makes you feel like a hooker he is not the right man for you. Dating is all about trying before buying. You have tried this one and now know his flaws. You now have to make a decision whether to buy (stay with him) or reject and find someone who treats you better.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (11 October 2017):
This should be your first warning sign...
"He was married and divorced 2 x"
Obviously he has not learned or have enough respect for women.
Do you really think it is normal for a man to treat you this way, just for good sex?
If all you want is the sex, then do not complain. If you want a loving relationship...then I think you know you are not in one right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2017): Kissing is what really shows a connection. If he doesn't want to kiss you, there is no connection.
This man seems to be using you to meet his sexual needs. He has no desire to be emotionally close to you.
Clearly he is incapable of true intimacy as evidenced from the previous two women who tossed him to the curb.
I would find myself another guy. You are just going to grow more and more resentful of him and all his baggage.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 October 2017):
 If kissing and affection is part of YOUR needs (and it sounds that way to me) then this guy is NOT the right man for you.
This is who he is. He doesn't like/enjoy kissing and he doesn't like showing affection (maybe because he doesn't feel it deep down?) but SEX now THAT he can get behind...
OP, he is not going to change because you WANT kisses and affection. It might even be the reason his 2 previous marriages didn't work out.
Don't settle for something that doesn't FEEL right to you. And don't settle for a guy who is LACKING in "departments" you desire.
You can talk to him and ASK him why, I just doubt his answer will help you.
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reader, N91 +, writes (11 October 2017):
 What does help with good answers only mean?
People give whatever advice they see fit whether you like it or not, that's the whole point of this website.
And what options do you have? Either suck it up and deal with it, ask him why he's not affectionate or if it's that much of an issue then break up and find someone who fulfills your needs.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (11 October 2017):
 Help with good answers only? Really? If I were you I would want to know why he won't kiss. You need good answers from him don't you. Without understanding you cannot move past the block.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (11 October 2017):
 OP, you need to ask him what he wants from this. By the sounds of it, he just wants sex and companionship, not a full relationship.
If he doesn't want kissing and affection, you're not compatible. You need to ask him.
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