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writes:(OP's suggested title)I'm a model who is dating a celebrity (I'll call him Tyrone), most people call him a hasbeen or say his career is over... why? Because he hasn't been a star of a movie in nearly 17years. We met on Facebook and we clicked completely. I couldn't understand why he wanted me to move to LA within days so we could be together. We talked every single day, he always told me he love me and was fortunate to have me, we talked about having kids and getting married. I really do love and would've done anything for him. It was obvious he had money issues because he kept asking me to send him some $$$. I didn't mind because I was doing pretty good financially for myself. I was so in love, I only wanted to be helpful. Its been almost a year and we've been off and on because of his attitude, greediness. Its hard to let him go because I had the deepest crush on him ever since his movie came out in 1993, all these years and I finally get to have him. I know that actors face rejection almost everyday and it hurts there self esteem, they're unstable at times but I really didn't mind being in his corner. I just wanna get married. My psychic says its a possibility but he'll never change. I just scared of being alone.Nowadays, before he'll say hello or how r you in a text message, the first thing he'll say is "Hey wifey, how much money did I make?". He's suppose to be moving in with me tomorrow because I need help with my son. I'm trying to work 2 jobs now. I just don't know what to do. I work 3rd shift and I need my sleep so that I can work but my son keeps me wide awake all day. I really need help with my son and I really love "Tyrone" but I know he needs help, what do I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): its times to act. leave him because he is too old and greedy for you... straight answer to your question..
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (1 August 2010):
 You don't love Tyrone, you are in love with dating a famous person. Tyrone is using you for money. Tyrone maybe a leech, but he is only a leech because you let him be. If he has been successful in acting, he will have learned how to sweet-talk himself into a variety of opportunities. When you came along, Tyrone thought 'opportunity knocks'. Tyrone was single and looking for dates on Facebook because no woman in LA thought he was a bargain! If he moves in and gets joint financial agreements with you for credit then Tyrone won't just be a pest, he will be a nightmare. Don't give him any money whatsoever and don't let him move in - find a childminder who will be so much cheaper in the long run. Don't desire to marry a loser who sponges off you - if he is like that now, he would be worse when you were married. Single life is better than having a bailiff bashing your door in for his debts. See how long he sticks around when you put a padlock on your purse, there is the test of his love and devotion to you. If you cannot do this for yourself, think about your child and his future. You maybe a young, beautiful model now but in 20 years...the work may dry up. Your boy deserves financial stability and not to be brought up in a household where his mother's partner treats her like a piggy bank. What sort of role-model will that be for his future adult relationships?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): see the funny side to this:
sell your story to a sleaze mag. his career will be rescurected very fast, then he won't have to swindle money from you.
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reader, GettingInYourBizness  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 Good advice already on this page, although we hear it all the time being the other way around (chick using guy for money), it's the other way too sometimes.
The guy doesn't have to be overly good looking, they know it's the way they make you feel, the conversation, etc.
When you love someone, you can't treat them that way (working them into the ground, etc). Actions always speak louder than words.
Find someone in your life that adds to it, not someone that takes away.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 August 2010):
 Love is a funny thing. We do the craziest things for love and it completely blinds us to a persons faults...but still we believe that love is enough for us to feel happy, safe and secure.
It is a very rare thing for someone to change their habits. If they do change it is usually because they realise that it is causing themselves massive pain and damage and not because their actions are hurting others...
Your on the 'love hook' and your suffering because of it. I ask you to look at what your partner has contributed to the relationship? Has he changed any of his bad behaviour?...no?...thats because he is getting what he wants, a beautiful loving woman who is willing to support him and give him money when he needs it (who wouldn't want that life?)...but what do you want darling? What is going to make it alright for you?
You don't need a psychic to tell you he isn't going to change...you know that already deep down in your heart.
So he WAS a celebrity...that doesn't make him a good person (except on a shallow level). You have a real life, several jobs and a child who needs you...your living the struggle like most people are. Your boyfriend is using his 'faded celebrity status' to milk you as a 'cash cow'...it it were a regular guy, I doubt you'd stick around.
If you drop him, and he really loves you, he will do the right thing and get regular work and be an equal contributor to the relationship. I am sorry baby girl but I don't think it's going to happen...you deserve so much more!
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): he's using you.
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reader, QueenAM +, writes (1 August 2010):
I don't want to sound harsh, but you need to leave him alone. He is using you, and although you may love him, he doesn't love you. He only loves your money. You have a career of your own and a second job of being a mom, so you already have a full plate. You need someone who is supportive, not a leech. I think you should get away from him before he takes all of your money and breaks your heart. Don't give up on love though :)
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (1 August 2010):
 1. Have you two met in person?
2. When a man shows you what kind of person he is, believe him
3. He is not going to change.
4. Just because he was a star once doesn't mean he can't get a job now. What is he doing for himself now besides hitting up women for cash?
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