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writes:okay so I need some input on this:I put an ad on craiglist looking for a long term relationship...yeah yeah I know craiglist isnt the best place for this, but I'm tired of being single. Anyway, so I decided to give it a try. I stated what I was looking for and also a couple of things about me and a couple of things about my preferences when it comes to guys. I had this guy who we are gonna call him Brandon. So brandon was the only one that responded to my ad. we chatted through emails then I gave him my # and he gave me his and we started texting each other. Just by the things he had told me about him, I couldnt wait to meet him in person so we decided to go out for coffee. We ordered our coffee to go and went walking around downtown with his dog. We talked and walked for lil bit over an hour or so, then went cruising around the town and then he dropped me at my house. On saturday we were supposed to go out for dinner and a movie but he canceled at the last minute because he had something to take care of that came up at the last minute. He was so worried about me being mad that he Begged me if he could take me out on the next day. He didnt really had to beg me as I was gonna say yes anyway. Anyhow, he picked me up from where I was with some friends and took me out to eat to a restaurant that I wanted to go. I must say that restaurant is quite expensive. Before we went there I told him we could go anywhere, as I;m a simple guy,. BUt he decided to take me to that restaurant anyway. He even paid the bill, I asked him how much was it so I could pay my share but he said he was gonna take care if it.oh and he also paid for my coffee on our first date ...After we were done eating and talking and me doing most of the talking, we headed out... when we were talking i told him to talk more, and he said that he just likes to listen more and talk less. Anyway, when we headed out we got in his car and I notice he was driving back to my house. on our way back to my house he said that he figured he would drop me off and leave the movie for some other time cuz I had been out all day and since he knows I go to work early he probably thought I was super tired as I had had a busy day that day. After he dropped me off, I texted him thanking him again for taking care of the bill and I told him how much I enjoyed the time with him and the food. and he texted back thanking me for the entertaining night and he said he had a lot of fun. I'm really interested in him, he's so different from all the guys I have dated before. Like it seems we both want to take our time getting to know each other. but I just don't know how he feels about me.I kinda want to ask him where do we stand but I feel I need to wait a couple more dates to see if he's interested?..I'm hoping we go on a third date but how long should I wait for him to text me? to be honest we don't text a lot we just text like three or four times a day, but thats like normal cuz we didn't really text a lot on the first day probably cuz we both want to give each other some space... I'm pretty sure he wont text me today and probably he wont text me tomorrow either as hes gonna be spending his day with his family. Now, I don't want to text him at least for a couple of days just to give him some space and give myself some space too, and also not to annoy him. Sometimes I'm really impatient but I do want this to work out with him so I'm working on that area because I don't want to come across like I'm desperate... if he doesnt text me how many days should I wait? a week?I want him to feel and know I'm interested in him and want to get to know him more. Sometimes he shows me like his interested. like since I don't have a car, he has picked me up in the past two dates. In our second date he even went to the beach to pick me up since I was hanging out with my friends there. I wasn't planning to go to the beach but since I was riding with a friend I didnt really had a choice. And I even told him I was at th beach but I didnt want to cancel our date but at the same time I didn't want him to go all the way over there to pick me up. And he asked me if i wanted to change the date for some other time. I said I wanted to hang out that day but it was fine with me if we changed it...but he ended up picking me up at the beach. When we talk, he likes to talk less and listen more. He makes comments every now and then to keep the convo going. And he smiles at me when we make eye contact. I feel this could actually turn into a relationship if not, at least a great friendship. But I don't know what to do next. I don't want to scare him away.
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reader, latinomusicus +, writes (29 May 2012):
latinomusicus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the great advice. Like I said I used to be really impatient but im working on that. I shouldn't give him that much of importance yet.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 First thing is to stop assuming that he is the last gentleman left. There are many good quality men out there. You shouldn't feel like you have to wait for him. In Craigslist you get sparse results compared to other dating websites. I would give him 5 days and if he doesn't respond, then his interest is only lukewarm and I would move on. Right now you are not sure if you like him that much either. He's gentleman but too quiet for you. The more men you meet, the less anxious you become. Not telling you to start chatting to other men, but don't put all eggs in a basket yet.
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