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*urayaXIII
writes:Hey guys,My gf wants to break up with me because she really think that I cant trust her... We are together only 2 months and it took us 3 years so we can be together. We had a fight because of my best friend and so during a year I ignore her completely but then she's the one who came back to me. I do have trust issues because:1)My ex cheated on me 2)My best friend back stabbed me trying to get my current girlfriend3)Me and my girlfriend we hardly spend time together because we are both busy with school. And...The only time that we spend together is one hour a week and that is I have to come back to my neighborhood because her school is in our neighborhood and mine is in downtown which takes me like an 1hour to go see her and go back to school. During the one hour, she always talks about her guys friends which makes me a bit jealous about all their things they do and it started to be get to me... I'm starting to get more insecure that she might cheat with someone else or just fall out of love I just fear that I might get abandon by her even tho I know she wont cheat with me because she will lose me and some of your closest friends but at the same time it hard and I feel that I'm the only one who sacrifice my time to be with her(I even went to her locker and surprise her with notes) ... now she think that I went to see her friends because I wanted them to say to her to not cheat with me but I went to see them to see if her love is truly sincere for me because she doesn't show it to me... like at first she didn't want to hold her hands at her school and now I don't even know if she told her others friends...I don't even know her entourage and she knows with who I hang out. I told that I have a low-esteem and that I don't open up easily to others and she can't understand that which pissed me off... I truly love her but now she's thinking of breaking up so I don't know what to do, I know that I have to give her time to cool off and same for me... She's the party girl type that goes clubbing and has alot of male friends unlike me who is the quiet guy and only hang out with my closest friends... we are completely opposite... Should I go talk to her like in a week, or should I wait for her to come or should prepare myself for an eventual breakup...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 October 2009):
I would say that she is looking to end it. I think that your lack of trust has really affected her. You can try once more to persuade her to reconsider and promise that you'll change, but it sounds like she's made her mind up. You need to fae your trust issues before you can have another girlfriend, because if you don't, this will happen again and again. Let her go, focus on yourself.
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