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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): Well using the multiple of 3's would mean that actually you slept with one and got a bj from the second.
Whereas she probably slept with 6 guys, not 2.
Remember guys exagerate, women minimize.
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reader, olderpoet  +, writes (14 March 2010):
Aye, there's the rub, as my childhood friend Billy Shakespeare would have said. First of all, what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. Either having sex makes you a slut or it doesn't. If it does, you are both sluts and should face the appropriate penalties...including YOU. If simply having sex, even with multiple partners, does NOT make you a slut, then what's your problem?
Sex has been around for a long time (millenia of millenia, i.e. thousands of thousands of years), and still, most people are better at figuring out where golf fits into the scheme of things than they are at figuring out how to handle sex.
If you believe that your girl is a "slut" and should be cast out because she had sex with three or thirty-three or three hundred and thirty-three people (gender doesn't count), then do so now.
If you believe that your girl is a wonderful person and that her performance and enjoyment of sex acts with other persons is what is part of the whole that makes her the person you love with all your heart...then take her in your arms and be the best, the most true lover she will ever have...and she will probably have more...as will you...and me, with any luck.
Look here, my young friend. You either love her or you don't. Whether you do or not, she has slept with others. That is a fact. If you cannot accept that fact, then let her find her happiness with someone who will love her whether she had sex with the entire Dallas Cowboys football team...including coaching staff and cheerleaders...a group of delightful ladies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): i always referred to malewhores as male sluts. or just sluts. but does it matter and is this even a real question? if it's a real question...then i'd say you are not thinking at all when you ask this question. do you not realize you are a bigger slut than she is? if this is a fake question, good job on riling everyone up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Was there any point in, asking that question considering you've slept with more! Its not rocket science to work that one out!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Wow..... just.. wow.
Seriously??
I have one word for you: issues!!!!!!
You two were over for over a year, she did 2 guys during that period but you did 5 girls, and youre calling her a slut??
You two were OVER. And for a very long time at that.
MOVE ON. She deserves better. Cant believe you called "the woman you love" a "slut" when what you did was worse.
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reader, _Katy_Did_ +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Hypocrite...You sound like a bit of a slut yourself if you want to put it in your terms. Seriously, you're going to "stop loving her"? If you can just turn your love off that easily then you aren't really in love with her...To answer your question:Get over it!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 February 2010):
 Yes DUMP her... now!
She deserve a decent guy.. you aren't it.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 hahaha.. thought that was from millie jackson meself..
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reader, Tarawr +, writes (18 February 2010):
 She had sex with two guys. You had sex with five girls. Five is greater than two. If you consider sleeping with two people a slut, perhaps you should look at yourself first.
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reader, needtoknow35 +, writes (18 February 2010):
 ok if you are calling her a slut for sleeping with two men then what does that make you? im not calling you names cause i dont know you but damn!!!! its been ten months why should she hold out and she dont even know if yall getting back together. honestly speaking in mot holding our for no man who i dont know if im going to be with anyway thats stupid its almost been a year shit in her eyes its over yall aint got back together in all this time then yall probably never will if i was you i would just leave that alone and move on
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 February 2010):
ah, she left your "male rat's ass" anyway.. 10months..hahahaha..like she gives a damn.. problem solved
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): "I think I'll make up me own word for a man that sleeps with 10 women and then calls his EX woman a slut for sleeping with 2."
Simple, it's hypocrite. No different than women who say it is fine for a woman to sleep with 30 men, but a guy is insecure, ignorant, wrong or whatever to think badly of that when has has only had 1 or 2 or no past partners. As I have always said, any woman has a right to sleep with as many men as she wants, but a future partner has an equal right to not accept that behavior or think it is wrong. However, if that future partner has done the same as her then it is completely wrong to think badly of the women. Again, that is just hypocritical.
I still like male slut as a term.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 February 2010):
sorry, he slept with five not 10.. you disease carrier you
I'm working on it..
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 February 2010):
Dosen't have the same historical weight trouble....slut orginally meant slovenly,unhygenic,dirty and nasty WOMAN..appropriating the word for men just dosen't carry the same sting..
checked website.. Dawg, Dog.. is about the best insult I could find there,somehow Cad dosen't do it for me either.. Most of these insults aren't,they seem to praise men instead of telling them off.
I think I'll make up me own word for a man that sleeps with 10 women and then calls his EX woman a slut for sleeping with 2.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): A male who sleeps around too much is also a slut. And many men do not approve of that behavior from a man any more than from a woman.
Yes, lots of men have double standards. But also many of us do not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Miamine, as far as I am concerned, slut is equally a valid term for both men and women. There was a question here last year where people were listing all the different words for male slut, but I forget what they were.
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_do_you_call_a_male_slut
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 February 2010):
If a woman is a slut... WHAT IS THE MALE EQUIVALENT.. what word do I use for men who sleep with many women?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Hey, if you had 1 relationship in those 10 months and she had 10 one night stands then you would have something legitimate to complain about. I would classify that as a slut. But she had 2 and you had 5 and you call her a slut. Well, I call you a hypocrite. How can you call her a slut when you slept with more than twice as many as she did. She should be asking if she should get back with a slut. Start thinking about equality here.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 February 2010):
Do I have anything to add..
NO! She's a human being and you need to GROW UP
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (18 February 2010):
If she's a slut than your a man whore. Sounds like your mad cause she wasn't begging for you to take her back and sleep with her that whole 10 months. Girls need to get laid too. You and her broke up and she moved on get over yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): I think the most important question you should ask yourself is "Do I want to get back together with her?" If yes, get over everything that has happened in between: you two don't owe anything to each other, and it's not like your own behaviour has been better. If, on the other hand, you don't want to see her again, then it might be better to stop talking to her altogether as all it seems to do is make yourself feel more miserable.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 February 2010):
No she's not a slut. Two guys in ten months is an average of one every 5 months. That's not a slut.
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (18 February 2010):
Grow up. If you love her it wouldn't matter if she had sex with someone else. If you really loved her you would be hoping these were good experiences for her and would not be thinking of yourself.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Loving someone isn't like a light switch, off/on.
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reader, Vickidude  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 She is not a slut , but you definitely acted like a Gigolo . You used a very harsh and demeaning term for a girl.
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reader, lemontree25 +, writes (18 February 2010):
If she hadn't slept with anyone during the hiatus would you want her to judge you as a slut for sleeping with those 5 girls? Probably not, so my advice is that you certainly need to get over it, especially because, trust me, two guys in ten months is nothing. Good luck.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Sorry hun, but she's only slept with 2 guys and you have slept with 5 women..... and you think that she is a slut...
Time to look at your own behaviour.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (18 February 2010):
Hold on... you slept with 5 girls in 10 months, she slept with 2 men... but she's a slut??? How do you figure that? Sounds like sour grapes to me.
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