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writes:Hi i'm thinking of leaving my wife, i like her in many ways but our sex life is virtually non exsistance. I've met a wonderful woman aged 18 who is beautiful and works as a model. The sex is absolutely fantastic. Do think there is a chance for us, or is the age difference a problem?
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (10 May 2008):
 If you choose to leave your wife for a young girl with a high sex drive then it's plainly see you aren't fitted to be in a relationship let along have the loyalty.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 I hope you have lots and lots of money, you'll need it for the hefty bill your wife will be handing you and of course it will be the only way you'll be able to possibly hang onto the youngster. If you don't have lots of money then I think you'll end up being lots poorer and all alone to-boot.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Yes. I think you should leave your wife. I think she deserves to be given the opportunity to find someone else.
If a relationship isn't working, then there's no point in going on with it. And evidently you've either tried to put it right and failed or can't be bothered to try. Either way, you are obvious both wasting your time.
As for the new relationship - is there a chance? Most probably not. Consider your attitude, not her looks or the sex. Is she going to be a friend and companion first and foremost, and will you be a friend and companion to her? From the way you write I doubt it, in which case it's doomed to failure before it starts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008):
Sex is usually the first thing to go when there are relaionship problems.
The fact that your wife isn't having sex with you is probably a sign that she's already feeling pretty romantically apart from you.
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reader, Kimaxsi +, writes (9 May 2008):
Honestly you've already bailed on your marriage emotionally, you decided at some point hey this can't be fixed or its too problematic to fix or perhaps together you guys worked your asses off and things just didn't resolve in a way you could both live with. So it may be time to end it, its not fair to your wife, for you to be off putting all your energy and effort into a new relationship and another woman and it isn't fair to the girl you are dating to have to live as the other woman, and its not fair to you either.
I think you know relationships take work, a lot of work, and communication, even if you've been together 20 years and think the relationship is set in stone, its not, life is dynamic and changing, courting should never end in a relationship, complacence kills relationship.
You may find yourself at some point in the same position with this 18 year old woman, if you just sit back and expect the fire to stay raging, when you aren't providing the fire with what it needs to keep burning.
As for age you are both consenting adults. I don't how old you are, but it does have something do with maturity on both your parts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): For the age difference, it is off the charts (not shown).
So I assume your having an affair? If your 40 or older, this relationship probably won't work do to the maturity and square factor (generation gap).
It already looks like your considering your marriage over, and not worth saving, so at this point, it is pointless in offering you to much because you've already set the course, and you might as well as continue it to the end.
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Hi, its seems like you have already walked away from your marriage as your only concern is the age difference between you and your lover, but you are already having sex with her, so you must feel that it is ok?? Is it that you are worried that eventually she will get bored with you and move onto someone else after a while? you have not told us how old you are?
Please be fair to you wife and do her a favour and leave her to find someone who she deserves to treat her right.
You have already gone and had an affair with someone without even addressing the issue in your marriage first of all.
You say you like her in many ways but you have not mentioned love?? Do you still love you wife? it could be that, the reason the sex life is non existent is due to the fact that maybe your wife already suspects that you are having an affair.
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reader, Twirly +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Hi There,
I think emotionally you have already left your wife if you are sleeping with another woman.
The fair thing to do all round would be to leave your wife. You can worry about the age difference with your new lady later, right now you need to sort out your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): it would help if u told us ur age first
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