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My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What would be a good classy way to break it off ?

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Question - (4 October 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 October 2012)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hello everyone. My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What happened is that he suddenly changed his FB password after adding a girl he used to have a crush on...

And lately we just been extremely distant so I went through my Facebook and deleted everything we had together including hiding our relationship . Then I saw he "hid" our relationship too.

So we are pretty much broken up... I was going trough a rough patch of being laid off my job... Etc.. But things are looking up now :) so i want him to know I will be so much better without him....

So my question is what would be a good classy way to break it off so that he regrets taking me for granted?

I am a smart girl, with straight As in college,scholarships , honors , a new job... Also I am not bad looking I keep in nice shape because I work out... I'm not jealous or possessive I gave him lots of freedom...but I think he took me for granted

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A male reader, Serpico United States +, writes (4 October 2012):

LDRs typically have a 6-12 month shelf life until a decision must be made, or it will be made for you. That yours lasted two years is IMO atypically long. If the two of you are not committed to changing it right now, then its over.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (4 October 2012):

Honeypie agony auntCall him up and tell him you don't feel like it's working any more. That you wish him good luck and happiness.

Don't drag the conversation out. After that I would un-friend him and block him from your FB. That way neither of you are in each others "business".

I think the sooner you officially end it the better.

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (4 October 2012):

oldbag agony auntHi

Just tell him, its onwards and upwards for me, wish him luck, then have no more contact. IF you feel you have to say anything. x

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A female reader, AuntyAunt United Kingdom +, writes (4 October 2012):

AuntyAunt agony auntWell done for realizing on your own that you're better off without this idiot. You're obviously a smart woman and

You've definitely made the right choice here.

As for a classy way to break it off? I'd honestly just meet up / call him when you can and make the break up official.. It's likely to really bug him that you're handling this so well.

A way to make him regret taking you for granted and treating you so badly? Be as happy as possible, and make sure he knows it. It might sound like nothing, but I promise you, the happier you appear to be without him the more he'll regret letting such a lovely person go.

Go ahead with your life, move on, meet new people. It's obvious you're going to be really successful.

Be happy, and best of luck with the future!

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