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*ngel louis
writes:Dear cupid...my boyfried and i have been together for 3 year we were so in love we do every thing together, at least we use to until his ex gf came back in town.He speaks to her and ever since she has came back he and i do not comunicate at all.I havent seen him for a month now and we havent spoke for almost a week now, but before she got in town we couldnt go 1hr without talking or texting.I asked him whats happen to us he always has the same excuse of work, or he is sick. For the last month. Is this the sign of a break up should i text him? I really miss him
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reader, angel louis +, writes (15 March 2016):
angel louis is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all ladies i really appreciate all the great advice and i've been doing very well with the situation i haven't contacted him in anyway i must admit i think of him alot alot but i've been getting out more on my free days getting makeovers and i can say im moving on but u know its still kinda hard but i can do it thanks alot lots of love to all!!!?? oh and he called me once we talked for about 60min said he would of call bk never did so i realised its time for me to wake up and smell the cofee!so im not quite over him but i know i'll get thete thanks again
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 March 2016):
 If you are not comfortable doing something then you even if you have been together 3 years or 30 years he should not sulk if you don't want to do it. I can see why he was confused when you said you where not ready, I think telling him straight out its not something you want to try would be better.
Now am not sure if he is still sulking over this, or if he is seeing his ex again but he cannot just go off the radar now for a month and expect everything to be okay. Breaking up with him over a text wasn't the most mature things to have done. But it is done now. The best thing you can do is not contact him again. Or else if you feel you need closure then meet up and talk to each other about what has happened.
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reader, miss frank  +, writes (13 March 2016):
Hi again-its always good to have the original poster back! So he contacted you, and you let him have it both barrels by the sounds of it....this is because you are hurt and angry, and have been waiting for him to contact you for quite some time now. His hi, haven't heard from you etc is frankly idiotic...his attempt because you hadn't contacted him, thinking blimey I'd best contact her some how...Has he been sulking over the oral sex thing? Is he a sulker? All you have written back to him will either give him the reason he is after to withdraw further, or he'll consider it...although if its all hurtful he'll back off.In all honesty, if he hasn't contacted you for the time you relay, and this text is all he has when he does, ain't Nora is right- you need to find yourself something better. For whatever reason, his reactions and behaviour to you has changed which means his feelings have.You need to play it cool and step away. The man you want isn't this one- its the one from a couple of months back- the one you have presently ignores you and has no regard for how you feel or how his actions are affecting you. Please don't chase this man. Hes behaved very disrespectfully towards you and hasn't valued you at all here.Plan your day, plan your week. Have it in your head that you wont contact him this week- think about next weeks plan in a few days.Allow yourself to dwell for a few minutes if you find yourself doing so, then carry on with your plans. You are in a state of anxious/preoccupied I think, where you check your phone, think of him, think of what he might he thinking or doing, thinking of how could he treat you this way....you need to get into a habit of carrying on your life- he'll do what he wants anyway, irrespective of your thoughts and preoccupation with what hes doing or thinking and why. See your friends, indulge yourself in whatever you enjoy doing, think about your future, get out and about, flirt, ger your confidence back that this situation is taking from you, don't keep your life on hold while he holds all the cards-its a recipe for stripping of your self worth.Work with the mindset that you are broken up now, because he has changed and you don't like who he now is.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (13 March 2016):
How lovely to receive your -FOLLOW -UP,thank you its much appreciated.Right now would you consider just standing back from the situation ,i know its easier said then done when your in-love with a guy.But remember you must love yourself FIRST and by being stressed out and fretful about this guy is not good for your over all health.Sometimes in-love we have to let go,and its painful,thats how we grow in wisdom.Right NOW you cant forget him,but Time is a great healer.The other point is when 2 people are in bed,its suppose to be a sharing and loving experience-not one as in your case your guy demanding oral sex which you were not happy to do.Time will help,you may never forget this guy,but you deserve a loving guy who respects your feelings.Kind regards NORA B.
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reader, angel louis +, writes (12 March 2016):
angel louis is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi.Nora B i really loved your advice i think your absolutley right.miss frank not that i can remember our last few hours together was on my birthday and he wanted to do something new in bed oral sex!and i said i dont think im quite ready but that was the only little thing he seemed angry but i guess he didnt show it because he complained we have been together for 3 yrs i dont see the big deal!!but i still refused but we still talked after that but we just never saw each other again.but i will like to add last night he texted me "hi!" I was really surprised and did not no want to reply.i just sent him a surprised emojis.and he said why havent i heard from u! i just had so much to say and i was like was like a water balloon that got over fill i really said a lot of hurtful things and broke up with him but i really can't get over him i went to sleep 5am thinking should i apologize?
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reader, NORA B +, writes (12 March 2016):
This is a very difficult and hurtful situation for you to be in.From your letter re the fact that you have not seen him for a month or spoke to him for a week would mean that he has certainly changed towards you.Sometimes people fall out of love and its always so hard on the other person that is still in love.Would you consider being gentle with yourself in the respect of getting on with your own life.It might be wiser to leave it up to him to contact you either be text or phone.Give it time-if a man wants to contact a woman hr will.Its not easy for you,but sending him all the texts in the world will not make any difference if he does not want to contact you.So let it. rest, and see what happens,but dont put you life on hold for this guy.Meet with your friends and family and live life .Kind regards NORA B.
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reader, miss frank +, writes (12 March 2016):
Hi. We only have the information you give here of course...however if this is right, there is something very wrong in your relationship which appears to have been triggered by her return.
Do you live in the same town as him and her or is thus a LDR relationship? Was there something that happened that triggered this dramatic change other than her return? Argument etc? Sounds very suspiciously like her return has triggered a return to her for him...
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