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writes:Started a new relationship with an old flame from my past. we are into our 6 month and very into each other. She now had a small child for a ex boyfriend and the ex is very unstable. lately the ex,s brother has started to show up visiting, at late hrs 9-10 o'clock at night with excuses like needs a couple of aspirin. just called an she was going to offer him a place to stay for the night.Is this normal? Should she keep some distance between her and the ex's family? i'm thinking it isn't a good idea to have any contact with the ex,s family, only in regular daylight hrs and prearranged timesLittle more insite. they have been separated for 4years and he(ex) hasn't let go. Reply to this Question
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986  +, writes (22 November 2016):
I think that four years should be the time for your gf's ex to let go and really let her love in since she is currently dating you. As for the brother of the ex bf, he should really be respectful and not come over especially during late hours when the children are sleeping at night time. The brother of the ex bf can hop I'm hod car and drive to a cavent store and buy asprin with his own money instead of taking your gf's stuff when he shows up in the middle of the nifht. Try telling her how you feel
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2016): I suspect there is way more to this brother dynamic than you think. They either have romantic feelings for one another or the ex is getting his brother to 'guard' your girlfriend or relay stuff back to him as part of his indirect control. The whole thing sounds wrong and immature including on your girlfriends part. Do you really want this hassle? It's a dead end if things don't radically change.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 November 2016):
 It sounds like he might have a little thing for your partner, why else would he randomly show up at night when the kids are in bed with pathetic excuses?
Maybe they both have a close friendship am not sure, still I think I would feel uncomfortable with it. Talk your girlfriend about how this makes you feel. I know it has only been six months, but still it sounds dodgy to me.
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (18 November 2016):
Do you live together or are you two just dating ..? As this to me sounds a little not right .. I wouldn't have any ex brother showing up or any male after 9pm when I'm on my own ( children normal sleeping) without it being an emergency but that's just me ..and my ways
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