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writes:Do most man losing their sex drive and sexual function over 45? And only a few stay horny and able to have sex in their later years?This is my third boyfriend over 40 at the last 10 years, and I started to be afraid of the thought, that I need to look for younger partner , if I care about sex. They all needed Viagra, or just had no sex drive at all. What is going on with this issue, what is your experience?
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reader, shortround59 +, writes (3 September 2012):
In answer to your question,i'm 64 and am very horny most all the time,and that's with no Viagra whatsoever! In fact i'm in need at this moment,but have had no luck in finding someone that would be interested in sex only! Does this help at all?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 July 2012):
 I'm 52 and my current partner is 39 I've been with men in their 50s, 40s etc... over many years. In a prior marriage I was a swinger...
the biggest thing I notice is that the erections are not as flat to the belly in older men as with younger men
my grandfather's exact comment was: "we don't have sex as often as we used to but when we do it's still really good"
said to his daughter when he was 86!
I kid you not.....
so i think that frequency does diminish over time
men that smoke or drink or have high blood pressure may also have erection difficulties...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): Dear So_Very_Confused !
What did you mean about ,''you didn't notice""
Also , wow,it must be not an everyday luck to have sex at 80 something. That sound like an exception, but maybe I just dont know what goes on for real. This why I'm trying to find out. Good for them anyways.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 July 2012):
I've not noticed it much... and I know for a fact that my grandparents were sexually active into their mid 80s at least....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): So it is very interesting to hear, that everybody seems to have different experiences. But there is also some truth about the decline. I have a friend, and her husband doesn't want any sex at all. But they are in a 24 year long marriage. Now she thinks, most of her friends are struggling with the same issue and she thinks long term marriage kills sex drive. Very sad. Because it means ,that marriage can't stay sexual ,so people will look for other solutions. But the guy I was talking about was off sex with his wife, however, he got back some appetite with me, but it is all gone now. He is also a busy business man, always on the phone and computer. Do you think too much work can kill sex drive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): I'm 48 and I have much higher sex drive than my wife, who is 36. But, I'm not as horny as I was in my teens and 20s.
For me, a lot of it has to do with how much the woman wants it, and how attractive she is. If a woman isn't very interested in sex, I lose some interest as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): Yes,I did hear about slowing down,but this guy,is more than that.He lost his interest in sex completely, and I think,this is why his marriage fall apart. But he would not admit this.And,yes,it is good to hear not all man are ending up with sex, on the same way,but this is my experience. Maybe
I just had no luck with older man.But I still, care about what others can say about this. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): When a man reaches 40, it is true he can slow down and it takes more work to arouse. Don't forget we have been there and seen it all before, so its just not quite as exciting as it once was. I believe in most cases anxiety or feeling under pressure to do the job is a killer. The biggest way to destroy is laying blame on each other. My partner is much younger than me and we have great fun and games. I do not believe that men reach an age and it suddenly stops, but yes it does take longer to excite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): Hello there,
I know what you mean, but I do have a great body,and I'm pretty sure it is not about me. Two of the guys had problem in their marriage already. I didn't mean to insult anybody,I just feel very curious and a bit concerned about this. So you think,it is not a regular decline,and most man are doing fine?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2012): i am 52 and don`t have any problems. i would also like to mention that a lot of guys in their 20`s are taking viagra. it is the third guy this has happened with now, it makes me question your sexual demeanour. i don`t think you will want to look at it from all angles though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2012): Well,it is still a mystery to me. I never thought of this before,but it is so hard to know the truth. If it is the reality,it's not kind from nature. What happens to all the wives ,whose husband is off sex at 40/? It is a sad thing.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 July 2012):
 No. I've remained sexually active and I'm now age 64. I'll admit that I can't do what I could do in my youth, and the interest is not quite as much, but every man may be different. At my age, and single, the opportunities are less often, but I'm up for it when available.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2012): Hey there?
What kind of psychological issues did you have?
Was this with your wife, or with your new partner?
And how did you resolve the issue?
Did you ever see a therapist?
Just asking, because maybe I can help my boyfriend with some tips.
Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2012): It is somewhat common for men to slowly begin losing their drive over 35 or so. I noticed a slight dropoff on how horny I was around 36. Much of it was probably stress from career and due to being in a rather dry marriage. Im now 43 and in a new relationship with a very sexually active girl about my age. I had significant issues with psychologically induced impotence at first, but now I have a higher drive than ever before. However, i do have to take male vitamins rich in zinc and I exercise and take cae of myself. If I dont, my sex drive plummets. My T levels are normal.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 This is often a big worry when you go for a partner who is much older than you. It says you are between 30 - 35 so why not go for a partner who is the same age as you.
Every man is different and they lose there libido at different ages. It is the same for women as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2012): yes unfortunately erectile dysfunction is becoming quite common among the over 40s these days. It must be something to do with the food we take or the air we breath. I really think this needs to be researched by specialists.
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reader, daletom +, writes (2 July 2012):
For me, it wasn't anything like a problem until my mid 50's. My wife and I are now both 61, and still enjoy making love - including sex. The erections are sometimes difficult to achieve, and my orgasms (but not hers) take a little more effort, but she has decades of practice at making them happen.
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