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writes:Okay, so I'm dating a 26 year old and I'm 17 (I know it seems wrong but do not judge, there are FAR more WORSE relationships than this) and everything is going great but one of my closest friends (let's call him B) hates my boyfriend's guts for no apparent reason. He always just tells me in messages that he thinks he's a perv. Which he is not, he's a gentlemen and we have no sexual relationship what so ever. My bestfriend (let's call her F) she says that B told her that he's in love with me so I am so confused with my situation. I used to have strong feelings for B but they're gone now. Help please? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 June 2012):
 other than the fact that in the united states if you were sexual with him he could go to jail I have no problem with age gap relationships.
However, at age 17 you are not nearly as mature as you will be in 9 years and clearly any 26 yr old man who is interested in a 17 yr old girl is not as mature as he should be...so just as a heads up, in a few years you will have matured and if he has not you will outgrow him...
BUT, on to the current problem with B.
Aunty Bim-Bim is right... ask him when he says that he thinks your OM is a perv why he thinks that.
"just because" is not a good reason, you want CONCRETE reasons from B and when he can't give them to you, then you can say to him... "until you have actual proof about this allegation, I ask you to keep your thoughts to yourself" if he refuses you may have to end contact with B for as long as you are with your OM.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 June 2012):
 Next time your friend starts with the perv comments, ask him to either elaborate or keep his views to himself, in other words, put up or shut up.
If he is so snarky you have a boyfriend when that's what he wanted to be, unless he can accept your choices, I think the friendship may have run its course.
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