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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi cupids, please i need your advice on what to do.i'm 25yrs and my man is 46yrs old.weve been together almost 4yrs. We even have a boy of 2yrs.this man is caring,kind and the quiet type.last two days,i met one of his relatives and this lady told me how my guy used to flirt at first.like he changed girls almost every month.at times he would even date 4 girls at the same time.she is the sixth person telling me this.even some of his friends told me that he was a chronic womanizer .by the way that was before he met me. When i questioned him, he said hes stopped and that he was hurt when the wife divorced him so he was searching and didnt meet the right woman to settle down with.he travels a lot due to the nature of his job,when he is away we talk almost every hour.we even talk dirty at night on phone.at times he leaves his phones when travelling,and for about two weeks i wouldnt recieve any call from a woman.abt 6months ago,my friend saw him with another woman at a restaurant.when i asked him he said she is an old friend.is this man cheating on me?because of what ive heard about his past i dont trust and respect him and feel insecure.he said hes stopped that since he met me,but what i want to know is that,can people really change from such character?i now feel shy when walking in town with him bcos of his past records.i love him and we planned of getting married this december.but i'm now scared and wants to break up who knows he might put up that behaviour after marriage.we say ''once a cheater.always a cheater".is it possible for such an addicted womanizer change for good?should i go ahead to marry someone with bad reputation as this?please i need some suggestions.especially those who have been in such conditions. Thanks.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 Yes I do believe it is possible for people to change if they meet someone who they really love and care about. But it sounds dodgy that he was having dinner with another woman and didn't think to tell you until he was caught out. If you do not trust him and you feel ashamed to be seen with him because of his past well then I don't see how this relationship is going to work, you need trust in order for it to work. If you cannot trust him well maybe it is better that you end things.
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