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writes:My girlfriend makes sex noises in her sleep, it used to be every now and then, now its a nightly thing that wakes me up. Her history is quite promiscuious which probably adds to the paranoia, but we do keep a regular sex life. I know people can't control what happens in sleep, but is this normal on a nightly basis?
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reader, Grapebird +, writes (13 August 2012):
Grapebird is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u maverick494 :)
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (13 August 2012):
Yup, definitely normal.
A friend of mine also used the sleep talking phone app and what she says is hilarious because it doesn't make any sense whatsoever. Sometimes she makes noises (that can be interpreted in any way) sometimes she talks and once even shoved her bf off his pillow because in her dream she thought she saw things on it. This basically happens every night or at least a few times each week. By recording it she realizes how irritating this is for her bf and they both had a good laugh. He now sleeps with earplugs in. Problem solved.
Don't make a big deal out of it. I doubt there's anything to worry about.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 By ear plugs.
I had a boyfriend once who started a new job at a mini-marked. He started asking me in his sleep how much of this or that product I wanted, if I needed a bag, and that we should go here or there to buy this or that.
People who talk in their sleep are disturbing to your sleep, but beyond that I fail to see the big issue. What would have been so wrong if she had sexual dreams? People do have sexual dreams you know, and it is not at all related to how much sex they've had in their lives. They don't have sexual dreams every night, which is why I don't think your gf is dreaming about sex. But why would it bother you so much if it was about sex?
It is really drastic and over-reacting if you dump someone because of something they dreamt, it's not as if they can help it! You need to buy yourself some ear plugs if she's keeping you awake at night.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 August 2012):
 well dreaming is normal.
making sounds is normal
the fact that you say they are sex noises concerns me...
if it was purely about lack of sleep it would not matter what she said.
but you said sex noises
and you brought up her previous sex life...
so it seems as if the lack of sleep (easily fixable with white noise/ear plugs or separate sleeping quarters) is not the TRUE issue. but the fact that you seem to be dancing on the edge of retroactive jealousy....
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reader, Grapebird +, writes (13 August 2012):
Grapebird is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYour right so_very_confused. Maybe we aren't, but I'd like to see if there's anything we can do first, hence asking advice. And it's more putting a strain on us both due to lack of sleep, not because I think she's having 'gangbangs' chigirl! If I though that for an instant I'd walk away. I'm asking if it's normal that's all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 August 2012):
I think if the fact that she's making sex noises in her sleep bothers you, means you are not compatible.
If she made fighting noises in her sleep or said "must kill all humans" (something my fiance will say in his sleep).... would that be better?
why is the fact that they are sex noises so bothersome to you?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 August 2012):
I fail to see how her sexual life matters in this. She makes noises in her sleep... quite normal. Weather they are "sex noises" or not I have no idea, as any noise can be a sex noise if you're interpreting it that way.
What do you think? That she's having gangbangs in her sleep because she used to be promiscuius and this is her outlet? That is absurd.
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reader, Grapebird +, writes (13 August 2012):
Grapebird is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo it's definitely sex noises, I've even had a sleep talking app recording and my gf agrees its sex noises.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 August 2012):
Normal.
My fiance has whole conversations in his sleep....
are you sure they are "sex noises"
I think your paranoia and insecurity is showing...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 August 2012):
 Normal. Some people are silent, some have entire conversations. Some people's moans just sound more sexual than others, but it's probably not even a sexual thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): Honestly, it is normal for some people to make noises of all sorts in their sleep. It can also go through phases too, sometimes I go through phases of talking in my sleep, apparently having a continuing conversation night after night, then I will go through phases of making noises whether it be sex noises or whatever and it honestly means nothing. Your right people can't control what happens in their sleep, and I wouldn't make an issue out of nothing.
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