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Is it normal after first time sex to hurt when you urinate?

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Question - (15 September 2013) 7 Answers - (Newest, 16 September 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Last night I lost my virginity to my Boyfriend. I'm not in love but I felt ready and it felt right we didn't plan for it to happen, it just did. The thing is it didn't hurt as much and I didn't bleed and it lasted for an hour until he came. We then done it another two times both lasted for long periods of and both times he came afterwards. It didn't hurt as much at the time but when I pass urine it hurts. Is this normal after sex for the first time?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy + , writes (16 September 2013):

CindyCares agony aunt Maybe you've got " honeymoon cystitis " , ever heard about it ? the definition goes back to early 20th century because then generally women had sex the first time on their honeymoon : when new bacteria ( specific to males and to each individual ) are introduced in a women's body, her lower urinary trait may get infected because her body has not " recognized " and adapted yet to those bacteria. Or, maybe you've got urethritis - because of the ( senseless , for a first timer ) pounding you got to all the vaginal area.

Both cases, nothing terrible and nothing to be scared of, but do call your doctor, you may need antibiotics.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (16 September 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntwell I'm no virgin but if i took over 2 hours of pounding It would hurt me to pee too.

the urethra is sensitive and it sides right next to the vagina and it gets pounded during sex. it sounds like you got bruised.

you should pee before and after sex to help rinse bacteria out of your urethra. Also never have anal sex before vaginal sex without washing.. the bacteria can cause major issues...

if you start peeing blood do not panic you have hemorrhagic cystitis. It's a urinary tract infection with bleeding. I used to get them all the time when i was younger. You're not dying... just have a very bad UTI which is very common in young women.

warm sitz baths (sit in warm (not hot) water just up past your lady parts.... feels good and helps soothe the pain

if you still hurt after a couple of days... see the GYN... it can't hurt.

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A female reader, Aunty Babbit United Kingdom +, writes (15 September 2013):

Aunty Babbit agony auntYour Vagina is designed for this activity but it hasn't ever been used for that activity before.

The number of times and duration of those times are quite substantial for a first time.

You won't be permanently damaged in any way but it's reasonable for urination to burn a bit as you're probably a bit raw down there. Ensure you keep your genitalia very clean and avoid perfumed soaps and body washes, clean fresh warm water is sufficient.

Maybe suggest your b/f takes things a little more gently until you're used to it and use plenty of lubrication to reduce the friction. You might need to have a break from penetration for a few days to heal.

If he's using condoms you may be reacting to the latex so be aware of that and maybe try changing the brand to a latex free variety. Things will get better honey.

I hope this helps AB x

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (15 September 2013):

chigirl agony auntYou are sore, because of the friction. Having sex for one hour is veeery long, usually intercourse lasts 3-6 minutes, and most women don't like it any longer than 20 minutes top. So to go at it for an hour, I think every woman would be sore and uncomfortable afterwards. If he's taking too long then have more foreplay so he can come faster, or he can finish off afterwards by using his hands. Your vagina isn't there for him to jerk off, you're supposed to both enjoy it. It wont kill him if he doesn't get to climax inside of you each and every time you have sex.

If I had intercourse for an hour straight I'd be sore too. It hurts when you pee because you get urine on the sore skin, just like it hurts if you get water on a cut on your hand. It stings. Stop having sex for such extended periods of time and you will do a lot better. If you end up sore it's NOT worth it. Sex needs to be enjoyed by both partners, or else you're ruining your own sex life for both now and the future. Don't just go ahead with whatever he wants and then end up in pain afterwards...

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A female reader, fishdish United States +, writes (15 September 2013):

fishdish agony auntYes, if you Broke your hymen, urine can make it sting. If it doesn't go away after the next couple times, he's probably being too rough

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (15 September 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntIf you were a virgin and had intercourse for nearly 3 hours you must be rubbed raw. Keep your vulva clean using gentle cleansers and see your doctor if your symptoms haven't improved in a few days.

And don't have intercourse again until your symptoms improve, you could really abrade yourself and set yourself up for infection.

If you did not use a condom then you may want to see a doctor earlier.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2013):

Yep, try leanin forward wen u pee, it wont last long and is totally normal.

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