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writes:So one of my prior classmates in graduate school and I were in the same class . He is 40 I am 25. Anyways throughout the class we got to know each other and I realized that we had a LOT in common, and in a way we spoke the same "language" I opened up a lot and he became impressed by the things I would say. After a while I developed a crush on him and I really wanted to get to know him, but he had a girl friend . Anyways to make the long story short I know somehow he felt a connection because when I saw him months later at a graduation he seemed to avoid me; he was very nervous, and tried to sort of walk away from me as soon as I went to talk to him. Even my sister noticed and said he kept looking at you, when you werent looking. Anyways I since added him on facebook and saw that he just recently proposed to his girl friend, who he had been with for three years. Now i dont know the man a lot and I have been in a long term relationship myself, but I know he must have felt a connection, and I was wondering, do people sometimes ignore their feelings? Even my sister said after looking at the facebook pics of his "His girlfriend seems possessive look at the way she holds him, I mean I saw the way he looked at you at graduation." Im just wondering your opinion, I mean he is this tall geeky guy and I always try to look like barbie, but for some reaon when he spoke he made me fall for him. Deep down in my heart I know he felt something,not just by my looks but by the way I expressed myself. My question is :If he didnt feel anything then why not go for a cofee with me when I asked him and he told me to keep in touch? And why was he so nervous around me in graduation? And lastly would he just get married to his gf becuase its safer to avoid these risly feelings???
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2011):
 He proposed to his GF and is going ot marry her..
you have a crush on a man you don't really know... just because he looks at you does not mean he is going to dump his whole life to be with you...
he didn't go for coffee because he doesn't feel that strongly about you... he was nervous probably because he can sense you want more than just a casual "hi how are you" kind of relationship... and NO men do not marry OTHER women to AVOID feelings for someone else.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 He obviously loves his girlfriend and he is not going to let anything come in the way of that. Maybe he knew that you had feelings for him, sometimes it can be obvious without us even knowing so am guessing he is avoiding you now because it is a risky path to go down. Try and forget about him, its for the best.
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