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writes:I'm a guy and in my first year of university. I've never even been on a date and i've only kissed one girl in my whole life and that was when i was drunk and in a club.Is that a turn off??If a girl liked me now then i wouldn't know what to do when taking her out because i would have no idea how you're supposed to behave while on a date.I was never allowed out by my mum growing up and so through all my teenage years i just sat at home and played Xbox (and even after all those years i still suck at it) while everyone else was out getting laid and developing their skills as a human being.I've never even had a job so i relied on my parents for money.I feel so out of depth compared to my flatmates that i live with. They can all play football and do so many other "manly" things like play poker well and talk to girls.I talk to girls but i can never seem to interest them sexually for whatever reason. It's like we're friends and nothing more.Whenever we all hang out i just feel like a little boy hanging around a group of men.There's a weird nerd that i live with, he just looks like any other nerd. He reads Shakespeare and all sorts of other boring stuff and he's so much better than i am and gets more *** than a toilet seat.I'm not saying that i wanna lose my virginity to some slutty girl, i'd like to fall in love first (as if that's gonna ever happen).I just want to be normal like all the other teenage boys my age (19).It's like everyone else automatically knows what to do in all sorts of situations whereas i just sit there looking stupid and i always ask questions about what's going on and this only makes everything worse.HELP!!!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 I met my husband when he was 19 and I was 18. We were friends for a long time before we started dating. When I met him, he had never kissed or dated a girl. It didn't bother me, and on the contrary, I was nervous because I had experience that he didn't.
We both worried in vain. We hit it off, and when we both first kissed on the shore of Lake Superior, my knees almost gave way.
He hadn't dated or kissed because there was something wrong with him. He had a really really strict background and upbringing that brought the purity idea to a serious extreme. He wasn't allowed to date or hold hands or whatever. Even when we started dating, it took his parents a long time to get used to the idea.
Anyways, trust me - when you meet a girl you are interested in, go for it! My husband turned out to be the greatest kisser, which I think was because he didn't learn bad habits on other girls.
Only you decide whether you're a man or a little boy. Don't let that be based on others. There are plenty of men who have sex, drink, and play poker that are immature.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 January 2011):
I think like many people, you'll come more alive whilst you're at university. I thought I had a lot of experience in life - then two years ago I lost my job and I realized I had very little. Since then I've gained a lot more.
You can't force everything to develop. It takes time. Plus, later on, women will probably appreciate and like that you've not been spreading your wild oats all over the place, so to speak.
Just relax and let things develop. You'll be totally different in two or three years time.
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