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writes:I am noticing there seems to be a growing number of questions here relating to repetitive cheating on dating sites by their partner. I have had to go through this with my partner who never admits it or thinks he is not doing anything wrong by way of any excuse he can find for being on there. Has anyone here ever had a partner who used dating sites when they should`nt have been and learned their lesson or does this always carry on until you dump them permanently? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx. @ Bronzed Adonis, Honeypie, the anonymous replies and So Very Confused. You are all very right. @ Jenette82 my boyfriends behaviour has not been much different. @ Atsweet1 the less I say to you, the better.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (26 February 2013):
 I would treat your case to what has happened to you, and not compare it to anyone else. If he is refusing to see the damage he is doing or doesn`t care about the effect it has on you, then why prolong it? Somehow he has got the message that he can continue without any real consequence. By the sound of it, he can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): By the way you have worded your question, it sounds like you will have to dump him permanently. If something about you is not good enough, then he should tell you. You probably are good enough, and the simple truth is that he`s not had any success cheating on you in real life, and he thinks he might have a better chance using dating sites. I did have the misfortune of a dating site romeo once. He never got a second chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): He knows he's doing wrong or he wouldn't be making excuses.
Apparently these excuses have "worked" (in his book) because you are still with him and faithfully taking all this crap. He'll keep it up for as long as you allow behavior that for most would be a deal-breaker.
This guy sounds like a really good candidate for an ultimatum. Something along the lines of "cut it out or I'll dump your sorry cheating a**!" Be prepared to follow through.
Good luck!
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Only if I was in a relationship or healthy marriage proper engagement would I discontinue entertain ing dating sites. In the pass I indulged in them while married cause I wasnt happy married although they were. If its one sided its over
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 February 2013):
 I think when a partner is on a dating site, they are still looking for that "someone" and they are NOT happy with the relationship they are in or their partner. They "THINK" they can do better.
I would not accept this in a relationship or marriage.
Will they keep doing it? Hard to say, but I would guess, yes. They might just get better at hiding it.
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reader, Jeanette82 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 My ex would not stop going on dating sites. We used to break up, get back and argue in between. He still never stopped. He used to lie about the profile being him, we broke up, he then put his photo on it, and at the same time was begging me to take him back. Just what do you say to that? I think you are better off not thinking about it and taking flight.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 February 2013):
 My ex husband would not stop inappropriately texting other women he met on gaming sites. Our marriage ended when I gave him back what he was giving me.
I think that a person (man or woman) who is on dating sites or emotionally cheating on their partner will do it as long as they can get away with it.
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