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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi.i am in a fix.i love this guy and well..he has this gf who loves him as well,and he cant really leave her because she helped him out of a real tight situation and then asked him out.he feels obliged to be with her.me and they guy's families know each other pretty well and they are all against the gf.i know her as well and we are on talking terms.she shares with me most of the things about her relationship,asking for advice etc etc.now,i am not a hypocrite,i dont tell her stuff that would make him breakup with her..but she tells me stuff which make sme sure that he doesnt love her.at all.and he doesnt,i asked him.however,a few days back,she messaged me that he loves her more than she loves him etc etc..now..her msg seemed to be justifying stuff to herself..looked as if she was trying to convince herself...i dont know what to do here..?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): You are so young and this is such a difficult situation. I suggest you walk away - if he wanted to be with you he'd have finished with her. Its not as if their married or have children so whats his excuse? People break up all the time - I don't want to hurt your feelings but I just don't think he's that into you, just enjoying the attention...so get out before you get any deeper in and find someone available who will love you like you deserve to be loved. Never accept second best you are worth so much more!!x
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 September 2008):
You have to butt out and leave them to it. You are going to read things into messages that are not there, and subconsciously you are going to be pushing for a break up, even if you try not to.
At the moment, if he breaks up with this girl and then goes out with you, you are going to look like you came in and stole him. You will look like the bad guy.
So you need to back off from the relationship and see what happens. If they do break up and you get together, no one will accuse you of having anything to do with it.
If he doesn't leave her then he's just weak, and do you really want to be with a weak pathetic man? Back off and tell him to call you when he's made up his mind.
Good Luck!! xx
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