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*ottenhamhotspur
writes:I have a great girlfriend and we get along really well. Everything is going along perfectly and we really see a future together.Currently we are long distance as we are seperated for the summer, and my mind is giving me some troubles.I was a virgin before our relationship, and she had one partner, her ex. I know they had a poor relationship and he was verbally abusive and all around not-so-great.Anyhow, I am anxious that I will not be the 'best' sexual partner she has ever had. I know it's a stupid thing, and she has already told me that she is happier now then she has ever been (with him, or at any time and that she wishes she could erase all of that). I think I have some misconceptions about sex and relationships,and would like some opinions. I worry that she has a memory of her 'best sex' and I won't be able to compare to it or that generally I just won't be as good as he was. I want to make her happy in everyway possible and as much as possible, and it's important to me that I am the best sexual partner she has had. We have great communication and love to discuss what we like and dislike, how our bodies work and spend alot of time on our relationship in and outside of the bedroom.My mind still worries me too much that she compares and contasts and that I come up short. I feel like she got him when he was younger (he was 19-early 20's) and I am 27, she is almost 28) and that sexually I won't be able to ever give her what he did.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (13 May 2012):
Those issues rarely matter to girls. It will matter if you let it bother you and make it an issue. Sex isn't everything to girls as it is to guys. What if the tables were turned...I'm sure you wouldn't want your new love to be constantly tormented by your past. It's in the past...you cant go back and change it, all you can do is move on and learn from it. You are basically disguising your real issue of missing your girl friend with things that don't matter and further more, can't be changed. Only you can change the way you feel NOW, so I do hope you get to visit your girl soon.
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reader, N91  +, writes (13 May 2012):
 If you know what she likes and doesn't like, how are you not giving her the best sex of her life?
She's given you the information to guide you to making it feel the best it possibly can for her, so if you're not doing it right even now, then there's not much else to say.
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