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writes:I didn't pull through to represent my country at the miss universe pageant. I didn't even make it through the auditions because I am a nervous wreck or was. I don't know, I have so much confidence as a person and I know back then in university I was very popular and admired for my composure and other attributes. But honestly, anything that has to do with me in an interview or panel of judges(no reason to be scared) I am always scared for no reason. After I failed to pull through thee auditions to be a representative for my country at miss universe pageant, I went on to contest for a popular hair brand, the judges were in love with my presentation and they voiced it out. They even gave me a standing ovation but once again I didn't pull through the audition. It's pathetic. Does this mean I am not beauty queen material? I plan to contest next year but these disappointments makes me think I shouldn't waste my time, money and effort again. I lost a lot of money planning for these pageants. I thought I was over the heart break of the audition, watching E entertainment and seeing the miss universe pageant threw me into sudden sadness. I am thinking of contesting again next year. And I want to start practising from now. Should I or should I not?Two failed auditions, am I beauty pageant material?Note: physically I am a very beautiful young woman and graceful. This really affected my self esteem because (not to bad mouth) the girl I was replaced with is not as flawless or as beautiful as myself. What do I do, how do I get over it. Should I contest or move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2015): Congratulations on trying and following your dreams, and well done for not entirely giving in. If i were you ( which i am not because i have lots of flaws lol) I would give it another go if you really want to do this. Although you are still very young 'On a practical note, I would guess, time will go against you one day so strike while your hot.Please don't only look to the outside of yourself find your inner beauty. although at your tender age you might want to scratch the eyes out of competition, this will not win you points, nor will arrogance, telling everyone you are flawless and more beautiful than your competition.I am sure you are flawless in most aspects but judges look for that something extra, special, that no amount of designer clothing, manicures, hair do's, makeup, boobs long legs, can provide. You have inner beauty, so find it, show it and glow and speak from the heart as well as your head.I do wish you luck and hope you don't give in. You got a standing ovation so you did something 'special'develop this area as well.I am a performing artist in dance theatre and have felt the most intense fear on performance nights and end up loving every part of the fear, It gives you an edge to perform well.Don't view nervousness or anxiety as a bad thing, stage fright may be an area to learn from. Breathing techniques.Good luck! you go for it Gal, p's true confidence is about believing in yourself ( so look inside not outside) I am excited for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your replies. I am a graduate of science but since being a child I have always dreamed to have that miss universe crown on my head. Hopefully, I would come back and tell my story, my success story.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 December 2015):
 Just try until you are 27. Olivia Jordan did not give up and I bet all the 27 year old winners felt their hard work was worth it at the end. Olivia was shaking at the Q and A. It's okay to be nervous. What matters is the message you give to others. Sometimes they give the crown to the oldest one just because of their perseverance. What you have to remember is why you are in the contest. They like women who have something to give, and care about the community. Also try to see the judges as normal people who are just trying to do their job selecting one who should represent your country. They are like your uncles, aunties. They have children, groceries to worry about. They can be bored sitting in the room waiting for someone to sparkle, to surprise them.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 December 2015):
 When in these situations you decide how you want to live your life, really. You can do things you dont enjoy, push yourself out of your comfort zone, make sacrifices, and perhaps succeed. Or you can do what you enjoy and have a happy life.
That's what I always thought, anyway. Some would call me an underachiever, because I am too smart to not get a doctorate or study mathematics, and instead I did social science and didn't even get top grades. Why? Because I don't want to waste my life giving up on things I'd rather do, giving up on what gives me joy and happiness. Just because of.. I guess money and reputation and being able to be "successful". Life is not a competition. If you're not living your life the way that brings you joy, then the only one who loses is you.
So you can make your choice. Push yourself to go on stage and be good with an audience, even though you hate it, are scared of it, and you lose money on it and it brings you stress. Or, you could go do something else that you enjoy.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (19 December 2015):
Don't give up on your dreams. You are nearly there. Years from now you could be kicking yourself for not taking advantage of the opportunity when it was presented to you.
In addition to practicing your public speaking, confidence comes from speaking from the goodness in your heart. Nervousness often comes from trying to recite something scripted or saying what you think the listener wants to hear. An awkward response is always a special delight when we can see that it comes from great beauty within. Good luck!
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (19 December 2015):
 Confidence is beautiful as it is sexy, my guess is that the girl you were replaced with was the whole package, not just a face. Don't give up though, why not do a short course in public speaking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2015): well the choice is yours.If it costs you money time and energy i would suggest you do something totally unbeautiful like going to another country on a volunteer programme or just a holiday with interesting things to see and do.I think it is a sad way to live where you have to look at people for their physical attributes and way up whether or not they are more appealing to the public, but that is the nature of these things.Its a question of the type of career or role you want in your future.some would hype it up and some would tone it down but it isnt important to anyone else at all unless you hold the same values and think these things are important because there are so many other things to do in life and being pretty or beautiful doesnt mean you have to keep on playing the same pretty tune forever.But the choice is yours alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2015): To be honest there is so much more to the workd than pageants, why not be beautiful but become a lawyer as well or at least set your sights higher than a superficial money-obsessed competition.
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