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male
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30-35,
*rym
writes:I texted my girlfriend/ex a few days ago to ask how everything was, no answer. I called, it went straight to voice mail. I called again a few hours later and it went to voicemail again. At first it distressed me that she was ignoring my calling but then as the time went by, I realized that I was now free. Although I did like her alot, there was no passion in our relationship. We only had sex twice in our 7 month relationship and she wasn't exactly expressive with her feelings. As I sit here, I wonder why we even kept it going for this long. I always felt like she was emotionaly distant and there were many red flags. Her not wanting me to kiss her until we leave her neighborhood. Her not showing much affection to me. Her lying about deleting her facebook when it's still up. The truth is, I've been hungry for affection ever since I got with her and now that she's gone, I feel like maybe I can look for it somewhere else. My dilemna is, I think she'll call me back someday. Something tells me it's a strong possibility. But what should I do when she does? Should I break up with her now knowing what I feel? Or should I try to reignite a passion that died a long time ago?I'm not bitter or angry that she has left me hanging. In a way, I think that it was probably for the best. I knew we weren't meant to be. I think I was just killing time with her. And no, I'm not looking for my soul mate. I gave up on that kind of stuff a long time ago. But what I had with her was company. I don't mind either way if she comes back to me or stays away. I just need help on deciding what to do just in case she tries to return.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 March 2013):
 I'm sure she'll contact you again... at that time you can say "it's just not working out, I need.... and then you list what you need from her" she may try to pretend she can make it better... and it's up to you to decide if after you tell her what's lacking if you want to give her one more last chance...
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (26 March 2013):
 If she contacts you, let her know how you feel about her and the relationship you had with her. It's better than leaving things hanging.
Don't give up on finding a soulmate. It's a big world out there with lots of nice people. Don't lower your expectations: you deserve to find true happiness with someone.
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