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writes:i am a 13 year old . this guy is very cute and i like him a lot . and he asked me if i wanted to have sex with him and i told him “ rpprobably not maybe i’ll succ you tho “ and yeah he is 15 and is not a virgin and i’m 13 and i am . ughhh idk what to do . i want to but i’m scared that he is gonna wanna have sex and i’m gonna have to tell him I don want to Reply to this Question
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (21 August 2018):
 If you think that then you should avoid him darling. And please don’t lower your standards to want to give him oral sex. Any decent boy wouldn’t even let you try doing that. You have such a wonderful life ahead of you, don’t spoil it now by trying to grow up too fast. You have the rest of your life to find that special person, no need to rush. Think career! Think how much of a fantastic house and lifestyle you could have before entering into something so serious. Because once your virginity is lost you can NEVER GET IT Back. Also remember many boys at that age would tell all his friends about it, and you really don’t want or need that ok. Your more special than that.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (19 August 2018):
 What a gross guy chasing after a 13 year old. You are LEGALLY a kid (no matter how grown up and mature you feel or think you are... YOU are a KID) And, SO is he, however in some places he is at an age where he CAN legally consent to sex and sexual acts.. YOU ARE NOT.
Why would you "need" to suck him? Or whatever it is you are suggesting?
You shouldn't be hanging out with a guy who is asking you for sexual favors of ANY kind. He knows you are young and a KID and that you WANT to seem older and more mature than you really are thus he think he can talk you into doing sexual acts with him. NOT because he CARES for you, but because he knows you are INEXPERIENCED and would want to please him and make him happy in hopes that HE will like you more or like you at all.
Here is the thing, OP
A guy won't LIKE you more for agreeing to having sex with them, whether it's oral, hands, anal or vaginal.
He will USE you and than either BRAG about it to other boys who then ALSO will try and use you - or he will pretend he doesn't know you.
Don't be stupid, OP
He doesn't give a flying fart about you. He just wants to see where your limits are and how easy you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2018): Do you want to know how to tell when a boy or a grown-man is up to no-good?
It's when he tells you not to tell anyone! Please remember this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2018): You are too young, and you are not ready for that step. He's too old for you, and you are heading into a place your mind and body is not developed enough to handle.
There are very serious diseases that he can give you like HPV. You are supposed to get the HPV vaccine when you are 9. That is a STD, or "sexually-transmitted disease," that can happen to a very young girl or boy. The scary part is that you may not get sick until you are much older. If you have not had shots for it, you could get infected. He could give you other infections; and you will be too afraid or ashamed to tell anyone. Lets not even talk about getting pregnant!
He doesn't feel anything emotional or loving towards you; he only wants to have sex with you. Once that has happened, he is done with you. He will act as though he doesn't know you. He will treat you like one of his toys, and put you aside when he is tired of playing with you. How would that make you feel? If he comes back, it will only be for sex; then he will treat you like he doesn't know you again.
Do you want to find-out if I'm wrong about that? NO! You don't!
I truly think you are not ready to handle this and you should be telling an adult that you really trust, that a boy is pressuring you to have sex.
The problem is, girls your age act as though your parents are your enemy; and you hold secrets to yourself that have pretty serious consequences, if you make the wrong choices.
That's why young girls in their tweens and your age, are favorite targets of pedophiles and sex-predators. You don't know any better, and you fall in-love with the attention from somebody older than you. That's very dangerous! You will want a boy so bad, you will not tell anybody what's going on. That is also very dangerous!
You could get pregnant at 13! You will not tell anyone what you've done; and you will protect him. You will feel more afraid and alone than you have ever felt! It's the same story every-time.
I'm not going to sugar-coat this for you. He's taking advantage of you; because you are young and naive. He knows someone your age will easily give-in. He knows when you are so young, you think it will make him really like you or fall in-love with you. What about the other girls he has been with? Where are they now?
If you can't talk to your own parents about it, you have no business online talking to strangers about something you already know you shouldn't be doing. You will only be doing it; because he wants you to. Not because you're smart enough or old enough to make the right choice by yourself.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (19 August 2018):
 You're at least three years too young for this mess - legally FIVE years too young.
Please don't talk about sexual stuff with guys. You'll regret it, get hurt and possibly pregnant because it's easy to get carried away. You'll also get a bad reputation.
If you can't use proper terms with each other, you're also too young.
Speak to a doctor, get on birth control and NEVER do anything (including oral) without condoms.
Please don't do this. If he's asking for sex, he's no friend and will only use you, then tell his friend. No nude/underwear pictures. No sex. No oral. No hand stuff. You're not old enough, OP, please trust us on that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2018): This is such a sad post....
You are 13 years old, honey. WHY are you even considering sex? Or talking about it?
It pains me terribly to see such a young lady like yourself, barely a teenager, worrying about having sex with a guy.
You are toooooo young!!!
No. No. and No!!! Stay away from this guy and all his and your friends who speaks of sex!!!
Keep sex out of your life for the next 10 years!!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (19 August 2018):
 Perhaps you should be asking your parents or teachers what they think of this situation? Can't bring yourself to do that? Is it because you KNOW it is wrong?
You have the rest of your life to ENJOY sex. You do not have to be pressured into it before you are old enough to legally partake or to enjoy it (because I can guarantee you, you will NOT enjoy it, give your age and the silly boy's age).
If this guy makes a habit of asking 13 year old girls for sex, he is going to land himself in trouble at some point. Don't be part of that trouble. Stay away from him. He may be cute but he is not a nice person.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (19 August 2018):
YouWish has given you great advice. Honestly, when you get older and wiser you’ll learn that this is no way to treat a girl. Why would you want your first experience of sex to be one where you felt unprepared, not ready and not comfortable? Don’t you think you’ll regret putting yourself through that for a boy who will have long forgotten you and moved on to someone else? Why are you even offering oral sex as a compromise, like it’s your duty to do something to please him?
You don’t have to wait forever to have sex. But when you have it, it should be because you want to, are ready for it, know what you’re doing and have someone in your life who cares about you, makes you feel special and wants you for the person you are and not just for the sex he can get. That is not this boy. And here’s something else: the way he’s asked you for this shows that, whether he’s a virgin or not (YouWish is also right by the way that he could be lying about that), he isn’t ready for sex either. So give him a firm no!
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 August 2018):
 YOU DO NOT owe him ANYTHING! And I don't care if he's a virgin or not...BOTH of you are far too young to engage in sexual activities! Even oral sex. And it's possible that he's lying about his virginity in the first place, but in case he's telling the truth, WHO CARES if he isn't one?? Just because he's had sex in the past doesn't obligate you to "put out" in order to prove your worth to this guy.
He wants you for sex only. This isn't love. It's selfish. If he pressures you, DUMP HIM to the curb. If he is really making you feel uncomfortable and you think he's going to try to force you to or put extreme pressure on you, then talk to your parents immediately.
You owe him NOTHING. Being a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't entitle someone to sexual favors. You at 13 are too young for sex. You know it too, which is why you're uncomfortable and uneasy about the entire thing.
You should call it quits with this guy. He doesn't want you as a person. He wants to use your body to get his rocks off...and he considers you no more than his plaything. He's treating you like a human blow-up doll.
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