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writes:Im 26 and am currently in a LDR with a lovely guy. He works away for 2 months at a time so we keep the relationship going by sending sexy photos to each other. Anyway, i saved the photos onto my phone and thought no more about it but then i just had a text off my best friends sister saying really quite personal stuff about my boyfriends naked body. I asked her how she knew and she told me that i sent them to her. I didn't and I haven't been drunk to have sent them and then forgotten. Anyway I am not the type of girl to randomly share that kind of photo with people but the only other person besides me who has used my phone is my best friend. Do you think it is likely she went through my photos and sent them out as a joke? Should I confront her and ask if she did? I'm really worried that people will think I am some cheap slut who forwards naked photos of my boyfriend to boast about his body. Do you think my boyfriend would be angry at me for being so careless to keep them on my phone? I don't normally lend my phone out but i thought i could trust her. He is a loving, trusting, rational man but i am scared he would feel betrayed by it, even though it wasn't me who sent them. Please help I am so confused, worried and scared right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): My boyfriend came home last night and i told him about it. He was annoyed at me at first but then he said sorry for it. I said sorry for being so stupid for leaving them on my phone. We both went to ask her about it and she acted like she did nothing wrong, like it was just a harmless joke. My bf was really angry with her because if his boss sees the pics he could lose his job, so he just said 'for f***s sake! Its not just a joke, it's not funny at all! Who did you send them to?' she said my Mum, sister, her sister and my brother. I was so annoyed and embarrassed that i just told her to f-off and never speak to me again. I now have t horrible task of calling my family to appologise. Lets just say she is not a best friend anymore. I have never been so angry with someone in all my life!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (15 March 2012):
 You should confront her but be prepared for denials, because its very likely that she will feign ignorance. Moreover if she's done this, then she's not a very nice person and she will never understand your concern, au contraire she will ridicule you even more behind your back.
Is your Bf's face visible in the pictures? Even if it is, there is nothing much you can do, except completely cut this girl out of your life and have nothing more to do with her. take this as a lesson, never keep personal stuff...photos, texts,etc., in your phone where it can be accessed by anyone. If you misplace your phone and it lands up in the wrong hands there's much worse that could happen
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 March 2012):
I would definitely confront her, that is NOT OK to do! She would be FIRED as a BBF!
And yes, your BF might be upset, but be honest and upfront with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2012): Some best friend, can't see anyone else having access so you have no choice but to confront her, tell her you know she has sent at least one photo,and who to, so she can't deny it. Hopefully thats the only one she sent.
I dont know if your boyfriend lives locally or if his face shows in the pics... if he is identifiable then maybe tell him about it when hes home, and that you have spoken to your friend. Its her he should be angry with.
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