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male
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anonymous
writes:My gf of a year broke up with me due to my friendship with a girl. On hindsight I was more emotionally invested in her than my gf and I do regret my actions. A few days back I texted her (out of anger) "thanks for ruining my relationship". (When really it was both our faults but I was in hysterics then) and her reply was "lol ok". I'm not sure what to make of her reply
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2015): I assume you mean you texted the girl you were more interested in than your gf? I'm confused. Either way, you ruined the relationship by paying more attention to someone else. She participated because she knew you had a gf and that she shouldn't be taking up all of your time or whatever her intentions were.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2015): I think you need to man up. Women don't like men who get hysterical.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 January 2015):
 I think she "loled" because YOU were the one ruining your relationship NOT her, as SHE was NOT invested or part of that relationship.
You, dear boy, need to OWN your own mistakes and actions not pass the monkey.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (3 January 2015):
 I don't think she took your message seriously, probably saw it as ridiculous and didn't have much of a response to give. You may consider issuing her an apology for putting sole blame on her for destruction of your relationship.
~SY
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (3 January 2015):
It means
"I have moved on (or am moving on) from you. I am no longer concerned about you or what you think of me. I am perfectly comfortable with you thinking everything was my fault. I can live with that."
but it doesn't take quite as long to type
I think you should start moving on too and stop engaging in conversation with her. What did you want to achieve by sending her such an inflammatory message? Ask yourself this question every time you feel tempted to message her again. Because it didn't bring her back and she wasn't particularly bothered either - the most common reasons for drunk texting an ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2015): Yes I have just been on the receiving end of a situation like this. A guy I was briefly involved with, turned his attention to a female friend of mine & now they are together. I ended things - as I couldn't stand being strung along any further.
I haven't heard from the guy since - but if he were to text me - like you have your ex gf - I would be feeling hurt too & not want to make much of a response.
Your girlfriend sounds like she has got over it by laughing it off and moving on! I just wish I had her strength to do the same.
Put it down to one of life's bitter experiences.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 January 2015):
 It is possible she knows that the person who ruined the relationship was you, because you were more invested emotionally with her than with your girlfriend.
She didn't do that, you did.
It was probably the only response she could give, or were you expecting a completely different response.
You were looking for somebody to blame for your behavior, but she wasn't willing to take the blame for your mistakes in your ex relationship.
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