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writes: Hi i have liked a guy for six months, he has already told me he doesnt want a relationship because he knows he will mess me around. He texts me all the time though. He arranges to meet me but never calls to say lets mett up now, i often see him when we go out though and i drunkenly slept with him. He hasnt been in touch since and only says hi when he sees me out, he want approach me and make conversation. im confused i cant stop thinking about him and am falling for him. Do i need to forget him or keep trying? if i was to text him what could i say? Thanks.
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reader, gungass +, writes (15 July 2006):
Youve allready answered your own question. Forget him he was to you what you were to him maybe.and that was a one off. So forget him.dont text him.
If he had any manners he would have contacted you. FORGET HIM.
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reader, kayleighanne1 +, writes (9 July 2006):
 ur doin the rite thing he sounds like his moreof a player then a real man u can do betta,
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi
im 19 he is 29 so you would think he would be wanting a relationship by now.
but obviosally not.
i reckon he would prob be sat laughing with his mates if i was to text him so i dont think il bother.
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (4 July 2006):
 Dont even text him i dont think his worth 10-12p of a text. Considering you didnt tell me your age nor his i think he sounds to young to want a ralationship or if he ent to young then he has a lot of growing up to do. or he wants is stupid flings where adventually hell catch deases. And you sound somuch better than to be taken advantage of. But if you do want to text him just explain how you feel and how things are to change. But if i was you id say see ya mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply, everything you said makes sense, i guess i just needed to hear ir from someone else. x
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reader, Yos  + ♥, writes (3 July 2006):
 Re-read what you wrote, imagine it was written by someone else. What would you think?
"He told me he doesn't want a relationship... I drunkenly slept with him... he hasn't been in touch since ... I can't stop thinking about him... do I need to forget him?"
You describe one of the most normal situations in the world, sadly. He's not looking for a relationship. He was very good to you by telling you this in advance, but you slept with him anyway (why? did you think he might fall for you? did you think he might respect you more? did you think you might get love in exchange for sex?).
You have to forget him. He is clearly not interested.
There is an important lesson in this: sleeping with a guy does not make him more likely to be in a relationship with you, if he doesn't want to be already. And if you do sleep with a man who doesn't want a relationship (and they are always happy to have casual sex), you'll only break your own heart. He won't care.
Sorry. I hope you get over him soon.
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