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writes:Hello, this is kind of a last resort because I know my friends would not understand. I am 15 and I am not eager to lose my virginity. Last night, I was with two friends (girls 14 and 16) in a bed and they both tried to touch me in a sexual way, I pulled away, although I know they both like me in that way so it could have resulted in having a threesome if I hadn't pulled away. As I said, I am a virgin and I'm not sure if this was the right thing to do or not, I mean because it's commonly known that the earlier a guy loses his virginity the more respect he get's from boy mates. Should I go back and go with the flow?
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reader, LethalInjection-x +, writes (29 January 2008):
 I have a lot of respect for you, most of the girls and guys I know would go for it purely to be able to say they did it.
Clearly you didn't want to do it, whether it was a clear thing to you or a subconscious thing telling you that maybe it's not a good idea, you still didn't want to do it, so don't.
You know what's right for you, and losing your virginity to brag and earn that odd "respect" people tend to earn from having sex, wasn't right for you at all.
Those girls were most likely trying it out themselves, testing the water and hoping you'd succumb to it. I'd take it as a compliment that you had two after you in that way though!
Don't feel bad, or guilty for not "going with the flow" as you put it.
You're the type of guy that will be respected by future girlfriends for NOT doing this kind of thing. Wait until you're ready x
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reader, xylplxym  +, writes (29 January 2008):
It depends on what you mean by the "right thing." For me (who is for the record a virgin), I follow Catholic moral teaching about staying chaste, or no sex til marriage. So it is easy for me to know whats right and wrong. I don't know what set of morals you follow but from my perspective, you did right.
Also, I do find valuing your own will over the will of society important. It is never good to do something only for the recognition. True, some people even on this site give guys credit for having sex. But thats not a reason to do it.
And don't listen to that last guy, this answer isn't feminist. (Thats equality among men and women, or sometimes it refers to female supremecy. but I bet you knew that already) This is simply the difference between doing what you want or giving into peer presure. You tell me which is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Be aware that the two girls might not really have intended to go through with it.
Females at that age are just finding out what a powerful tool their sexuality is. Plenty of them would get a kick out of sexually exciting/tormenting you like that just for the naughty fun of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): I was a hotny teen once and I can tell you if the girls are hot and you make sure none of you can possibly get caught... go for it.
Sure you can take the normal path of getting drunk and shaggin some random somewhere and losing it that way. Or you can wait for someone you love (you could be waiting a while).
But damn kid, two hot girls wanna bone you (you who are not going otu with someone and have no obligations to refuse) and you walk away. Man If I was your age I would wrecked those chicks. I would have done unspeakable things to them. Sexy Unspeakable things, not violent unspeakable things. :p
You will never get true respect from male friends, but hell the bragging rights are worth the price alone. I mean losing it with two chicks at once is a very kickass and manly way of doing it.
If all else fails just think of how cool its gonna be when you are getting laid and caressing those tittie ever so softly.
I apologise. I just thought I'd play Devil's Advocate to offset all the amazingly gay feminist comments here.
Damn man at your age you should be trying to bang anything with tits.
Flynn 24
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (29 January 2008):
 If you're not comfortable with it, then don't do it. You'll regret it later.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (28 January 2008):
 your body your rules! don't go back just to impress your mates. wait until you're ready.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Well it's not very nice is it? If my b/f lost his virginity in a threesome I wouldn't be very impressed nor would alot of people. Meet that special someone than maybe after have a threesome if the offer still there but really, losing it to a guy and girl at the same time...bit slutty.
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reader, mandaxboo  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 okay,if you want to then go for it,i was in your position before wit to boys and i went with it and i didnt regret it, cuz they liked me, and i liked them, but if u dont feel rite then dont ddo it,
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reader, LouLee +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Like you said, you're not too eager to lose your virginity; if you want to save it, save it. F**k the 'respect' that these guys will give you.. seriously is that all you care about? You can always fib? You're only a virgin once, remember that. Once it's gone, it's gone forever.
I suggest you wait 'til you find ONE girl that you like for real then decide if you want to lose you're virginity otherwise you're most probably going to regret it. x
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (28 January 2008):
 I agree with the other two aunts here, don't fell pressured into doing anything. Virginity is something you want to hang onto for as long as possible, and lost with someone that you love with all your heart. I feel if you go with these two girls you may regret it later in life. Forget about pressure from other boy mates about the earlier the better, you do whats right for you.
Good luck
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reader, MissKin +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Respect from mates is a bad reason to lose your virginity. You're also under age, and so is the fourteen year old - make sure it's what they really want to. Make sure you use protection and that you're not going to get anyone pregnant or catch anything, you're all far too young to deal with a baby. You have to ask yourself why you backed away from the situation. If you weren't ready, then don't force yourself. If you were just shy, try to make urself feel more confident and dont worry so much. I believe losing your virginity should be a beautiful experience and an expression of love and that you should only have sex with people you care about a trust, when you're both completely ready for it. A threesome doesn't spell this out to me. However, i realise teenage boys have this big issue with being virgins, though you really shouldn't. Whatever you do, make sure you're ready for it and make sure you're prepared with condoms and such. Hope it all works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Do it when you are ready and not someone else. Dont feel pressurised into it. Anyway, tell a lie! Say that you have if it makes you feel better, how will anyone know, you are not wearing a badge to say you are a virgin, are you? But that is up to you.
take care
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reader, Trinnity08 +, writes (28 January 2008):
 lose your virginity when you feel ready , don't feel presured . in this case it's about how you feel about it , if you're comfortable with it and you want to do it then the answer is clear . but will you regret it ??? why not wait until you know it's right xxxtrinnity
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