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I met this man and the chemistry was intense, so what happened next was ............

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Question - (13 May 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 13 May 2015)
A female South Africa age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid..

Long story short, have been texting 24/7 with a Guy i met 2 weeks ago.

We been out together with friends 3times partying And made out once(french kissing). He is crazy in the head And i completely get his sick sense of humour. We talk about almost everything.

Had a short date once which was so intense, i just wantend to tip his clothes off And confessed about it through text after the date.. He Said he felt same way too And we had a good laugh about it. One day while he asked me what i wanted.

I told him i want him

He told me to Make a choice, u see am already in a serious relationship And don't want to lose my partner of 7years. I told him i can't so he asked me to hook him up with one of my Friend.

I did and i thought i Would be so cool about it...he hasn't texted me for past 2 days which is unlike him. 3 days i go i texted him And that is the day my Friend told me they went on a date..our conversation was so intense And so weird.

That was the last time we spoke! Am so angry, can't focus on Anything.

I don't know why i feel that way. It's driving crazy!! I have deleted his Number coz am afraid i Will write him something i Will regret later. I cheated on my partner And that doesn't bother me at all.. What is wrong with me?? I have so Much anger! What should i do?

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A male reader, SensitiveBloke United Kingdom +, writes (13 May 2015):

SensitiveBloke agony auntThe main problem here is that you're in a relationship but you've been messing around with another man.

First things first: decide what you want to do about your relationship. If you're not happy, look at the reasons why and decide whether you want to work to make things better. If you decide to break up with your boyfriend, then and only then can you start thinking about other men.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 May 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI don't see why you are upset either. YOU did YOUR BF/partner WRONG. Even if your partner doesn't know it.

And since you don't EVEN care that you considered cheating on your BF, why not SET your BF free? So he can find a girl who can and want to be faithful.

YOU want to have fun, SO be single. Have fun.

And wanting to punch a guy, who accepted that you didn't want an affair so he found someone ELSE to fool around with IS not OK either. To me it sounds like you were hoping he would PINE for you or even try and convince you to have a fling, but he didn't, because ALL you were to him was a bit of fun.

YOU really should get your priorities straight.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2015):

I think you should tell your partner of 7 years you've cheated on him so that he can stop wasting his time with you and meet a loyal person who won't cheat on him.

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A male reader, lawncare United Kingdom +, writes (13 May 2015):

lawncare agony auntWhat you need to do is forget this man. He's already forgetting you. He gave you a fair choice and you took it (arguably the one correct decision you made, alongside deleting his number). It's not his fault and he has moved on as he is entitled to do. Now you must do the same. Wanting to punch him in the face is ridiculous in this instance because you're the one in the wrong.

I'm struggling to see why you want to preserve this longstanding relationship as you can't be bothered to behave in a manner that befits it, and you claim that it doesn't bother you (yet earlier you claim it does).

Your letter is written from the mind of someone who is scared of losing public face and not getting their own way all of the time rather than someone hoping to do the right thing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2015):

I honestly don't see why you are so upset - you cheated on your partner of 7 years.

You just wanted to have your cake and eat it too - and now that is not happening YOU are upset.

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