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writes:im in a 1 year 3 month long distance relationship with my girlfriend. we see each other every two months due to school and work and we live in different countries. I have been her first one and she is on the pill so we dont use any kind of protection except for the pill. last visit I found a couple of condoms in her drawer and It completely freaked me out because we dont use them. those condoms were the kind of those they give away for free in schools or the ones that come along with other promotional products.she said she they were giving them away at college and she kept them for us in case she messed up with the pill or forget to take it. I want to belive her since I have been her first and so far her only one, but I find shady for a girl who is on the pill and in a trust based relationship to have condoms in her drawer "just in case" please help! I love her and now the doubt is killing me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2013): 0riginal poster: thanks all of you for your responses, my girlfriend absolutely has never given me any reason to doubt about her, so after reading all your comments I can have peace of mind. thanks!
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (2 July 2013):
Yeah, it's a completely reasonable explanation. If she forgets to take the pill, it could make condoms necessary. Also, there are lots of medications that alter the effectiveness of the pill (antibiotics being one). So given that these condoms were free, why throw it away when it could come in handy quite easily?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2013): I am also in a committed relationship and never use condoms, but I get given free ones every time I go to the health centre for any reason. I too keep them in my drawer just incase, so I totally agree that you have nothing to worry about.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 July 2013):
 you did the right thing and asked
you yourself said they are the kind given away for free
her explanation is extremely plausible to me.
remember an upset tummy can render the pill ineffective as can antacids, or other medications. She sounds like she's made a wise choice to keep these condoms for you two to use if necessary.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 July 2013):
 Totally believable version, what's so strange about it ? You get samples and promos of stuff , generally you just stick them in a drawer " just in case ", without even thinking about it much . You just vaguely reckon who knows, it may come handy one day, and forget about it.
Plus, if she had been up to something, I think she would have gotten herself a whole , regular box of condoms :)
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reader, romany  +, writes (2 July 2013):
 I'm with HoneyPie on this, I think she is girl after my heart, I'm always saying things like, Oh I'll keep this, as you never know if I'll need it, and I too would have stashed those free condoms in a safe place 'just in case'
Long distance relationships are hard, trust is so important, if she has done nothing to jeopardise that trust, don't go jeopardising the relationship with over analysing what really is quite simply...forward thinking, which is something us women are good at.
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reader, llifton +, writes (2 July 2013):
 that would freak me out, too. i can't blame you. but as was just mentioned, if she's not given you any reason not to trust her, i would take what she has to say and believe it. if she's never seemed shady before, give her the benefit of the doubt. i know that's tough, though. good luck.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 July 2013):
 I think it's a smart thing for her to do, and IF she hasn't given you any other reason to not trust her , I think you should trust her explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2013): I would believe your girlfriend. If I was given condoms at school I would probably do the same, as sometimes we do forget to take our pills. Unless you have a real reason to not trust her I'd say she's being honest. I hate to say this, but seriously speaking, before you saw the rubbers in her drawer I'm sure you trusted her and everything was fine, correct? Okay, nothing's changed except the fact you saw 2 rubbers in her drawer. Understand what I'm saying? If she's given you no reason to mistrust her, I wouldn't. And let's be honest, if she were going to cheat on you seeing/not seeing the rubbers wouldn't change that. Just believe what she told you and keep doing what you have been. :)
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