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writes:Hi.....iam 21 years and iam in a heartbreaking dilema...i started seing this guy ( @ the time 32) when i was 19.... The thing is that it all started so sudden @ work...you know the passing by the office..the eye contact...then one day he took me home because i needed a ride and thats how it all began......we never had sex untill this year thought...we fooled around and thats about it...the thing is that his wife work's there two in a different department....i no longer works there ....but found out shes pregnant...and that just broke my heart...i fell for him...i think about him all the time and i never expected nothing from him....but it hurt's so much....please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Im in the same situation and it is heartbreaking.. i feel like such a fool with a thousand emotions. Im ashamed of myself for ever getting involved and so devestated at the same time I just dont know how to pick up and move on. He didnt tell me, I found out....and obviously feel horrible and had no idea and im sitting here as i just found out today trying ot think of how to leave here. he lives wo blocks from me and i want so much to just dissapear and run away from here
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I've been there precisely. I was a mug as the guy claimed him and his wife slept in separate rooms and never had sex. Like yeah right! I know the pain is immense and my bloke never told me until the baby was nearly due - imagine the shock. It really is - totally sickening. It affected me for months and I couldn't look at a baby as it was just a reminder. Remember you will get through this (I did) but I guarantee you it will take a single, younger, loving man to make you get over it and see this married idiot for what he is. Eventually it is a life lesson and you will be able to leave it in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I'm sorry you're hurting, but you need to let this one go. It seems like he was just using you for sex, and I don't think that you want to be his sex toy forever. Find someone who will really appreciate you.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 I agree with Collaroy. It hurts but you need to move on now, try and find a man who is not married and closer to your own age next time... it will be lots easier
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Ditto to the previous answer. You need to get real. The married man whose fooling around on his poor pregnant wife is soooooo not worth it, but you...what are you thinking? Why don't you finally do something decent in this situation and leave them both alone.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Hi,
you were his bit on the side, a piece of fluff he could bonk when you took his fancy.
I'm sorry but when you play adult games with grown up people you get hurt. I would be more sympathetic to you if you weren't so selfish in your attitudes. Imagine how you would feel if you were pregnant and your husband was chasing after some young piece of skirt.
But feel free to play the jealous girlfriend , you could always let his wife know that you are his bit on the side -the least she deserves is to find out she's married a rat.
If you play with married men expect this and more in the future.
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Hi there,
He was and still is married and now his wife is pregnant, walk away from this one and put it down to a life experience and never to go near men like this again, especially ones you know have wifes/partners it all ends in tears. I know it is painful, but this will go nowhere.
Sorry to say but you were his cake on the side and he still had his wife to go home to, so he was getting the best of both worlds. Think how devastated his wife would be if she knew her husband was carrying on behind her back.
At least you no longer work there, so you dont have to look at him every day. Cut all contact with this guy and move on. Time is a healer and your broken heart will mend in time...find someone who is available and free to give you the 100% attention.
Take care
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Walk away now however much it hurts he is may be just using you. He doesnt know what he wants and could string you along for ages. Give the unborn child a chance to have his/her daddy. If its not you it could be another girl next week. x x Sorry if that harsh but he needs to grow up and you need a man who love you and you alone
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