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writes:I was seeing someone but finished with him because he had another girlfriend, he siad he didn't love her but would not leave his children. He admitted he was scared of getting hurt but he did love me but he had to hold back. I finished it because it was leaving me off balance most of time because i felt i couldn't trust him. He is a dreadful flirt when drunk and can get very drunk. He has cheated on his girlfriend before for 4 years with another woman who left him when he left his girlfriend for her . He ignored my calls all weekend all though i thought we were meant to go out on the sunday. he often took me out and payed and stayed at mine on a fri night aswell. I think i did the right thing but i miss him so much and worry what will happen if i bump into him, we live close. I want to ring him and find out what happened. I ended it by text cus he was ignoring me, I feel bad for that cus there could have been something wrong and i could of upset him. Did i do the right thing? I'm so confused what do i do? I'm tempted to ask his friends if they know anything but i'm scared of the answer. I so confused
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reader, lovehate  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 You have done the right thing. I know it won't feel like it now and you will miss him but he has been playing games with you. Get out while you are still strong.I hope this helped. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): update
He always said he loved me. He used to stay over mine one night a week and took me out every weekend and wouldn't let me pay for a thing. He would hol my hand in public aswell, which is why i'm confused as to why he hasn't replied to my text. Its killing me that I dont know what happened or why he hasn't texted. I know i will bump into him at some point. should i ask him?
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reader, Midge +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Ok, so he has trust issues and obviously issues with being faithfull too, so I wouldnt be too worried about ending it.
If you felt that strongly about him you are bound to be upset and hurt etc, but if he was any type of man he would have gotten in touch straight away to speak to you and try and sort things out (even if there wasnt any chance of getting back together).
Yes, something could have happened to him, but its been a couple of days since you sent him a text so if there was something wrong, you could have discussed it with him.
Dont call him, text him, ask friends to check for you etc. You are better off without a cheat. If he has cheated with someone else, then he would cheat with you.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (1 August 2007):
 You did the right thing. Hasnt he wasted enough of your time?
Of course you will miss him, but you deserve someone thats in a position to be able to respond to your calls & txt because they havent got a wife or girlfreind in tow. Surely you wont miss that? I take it you are single? If so, why would you want to sell yourself short with an attached person?
You dont need to do that.
I would stay strong and stay away. Have you had a reply to your txt even?
This guy seems to have been playing a fun game. For himself anyway. And getting away with it.
Go find a genuine guy that doesnt lie to his partners like this guy finds very easy.
I would find that worrying & i think you do & thats why you wouldnt trust him even if you wanted to.
Good luck
C xxxxx
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