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writes:I'm pretty upet at the moment because my boyfriend used to flirt with girls on facebook telling them that they looked sexy, and that they were gorgeous e.t.c, I was was not happy with this behaviour as it made me feel awful, and like he didn't respect me especially as I have never flirted with anyone and would not even dream of doing so. He agreed to stop, however recently on twitter I have found he is flirting again with girls, again sending comments like 'you're sexy', I can't believe he's still doing this! I don't know what to do.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 April 2012):
I think you know the answer. He outright lied to you, and this is a bit more than just flirting. He seems to want to be out there with a lot of women rather than just connecting with one.
There are better guys out there who will commit to you.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (11 April 2012):
 He doesn't respect you or your feelings so I'd send him a tweet telling him you're through.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 Does he want a girl friend and a committed relationship or does he want to be single and a bit of a lad?
it sounds like he is feeling restricted and is chafing at the bit a little.
He does not sound like and nor is he acting like a man who is completely enamoured and adoring towards you.
You have told him before how much it hurts you. He told you he would stop. Now he has started it up all over again.
His behavior has consequences. One of those is that he could lose you. if you did it to him I suspect he would be outraged.
Ask him one more time to stop. and remind him if he starts up again then he is not ready to be your Gf. It is up to him.
At the same time think about ways you can make life more flirty towards him and more interesting for him. A bit of incentive might be enough to get him to rethink his ways
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reader, MikaB  +, writes (11 April 2012):
First, does he ever compliment you? Say that you are beautiful and sexy too? Because if he does, it might just be his thing some guys are just silly.
However, if this really bothers you then you should tell him, because he is hurting your feelings and being disrespectful, since you already told him you didn't like his behavior and still he does it anyway.
Tell him exactly how it makes you feel. give him clear reasons why you want him to stop. If he doesn't them he has no respect for you. Besides you better talk now, you don't want this to escalate into something more serious like actually have him talking to this girls and the girls replying.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2012):
 You leave him that's what you do.
IF you have already told him that you don't like his flirting with others and it makes you feel bad (which btw is on YOU not on his behavior) AND he agreed that he would NOT do it and he is now doing it again.. he has broken his word to you.
He has LIED to you
will you ever trust him? how? and why would you?
you are right he has no respect for you or your needs and wants.
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