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writes:Hi folks!Background:I met a girl about a month ago(someone new to my University). I immediately obtained her number and her Facebook, and on the very same day I walked her home after class. A bit over a week ago I took her out to lunch, which we both enjoyed very much. Afterwards she texted me, saying: "Thanks a bunch for today." It's worth noting that I'm positive we have a mutual liking for each other, as she is very happy when ever I'm around her, she's always teasing me.. and so on. And about 50% of the time we hangout because of her initiative in contacting me.Since day one, she's been very unreliable with electronic communications, often forgetting to reply or replying a day later.I was always convinced it wasn't a bad sign, because she was very "in to me" in person. Question:4 days after our little date I texted her asking to meetup, well it's been nearly 5 days with no response!She's always been bad with electronic communications, but not this bad!How should I go about this without seeming needy or desperate?- Should I wait another few days and then ring her? (I've never spoken to her on the phone).- Or should I just text her again? - Or should I do nothing and just hope that she replies before I'm old and grey?I hate being in this situation, because I like being in control of the situation, and having her clearly show initiative. (This gives me reassurance that I'm doing things right).
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I called her, she didn't pick up so I left her a voice mail, hopefully she'll call back!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 March 2014):
 just an FYI... in August my husband sent me some text messages (we were at our yearly convention and in different hotels at the time) I did NOT get them until NOVEMBER.
yes that's correct.. they were SENT in August and RECEIVED in November.
TEXTING is not a good way to have a relationship.
so did you call her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionExactly Alice, it's driving me insane!
Alrighty folks, I'll call her tomorrow.
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reader, Sensible Alice +, writes (11 March 2014):
 You must be going crazy with all this waiting! I'm not sure I could be that patient. Five days with no contact is a bit rude. She might not like to text but it's only good manners to acknowledge a message. Maybe you might need to call her from now on and not rely on texts.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 March 2014):
 I agree with Honeypie - you're not sounding "needy or desperate". You're sounding, at least to me, cowardly when it comes to love. A sure thing??? There *are* no sure things! You need to show confidence, which means that you don't text noncommittal dreck like "hey, wanna meetup" without ever talking to her on the phone.
If you want to go out with her on more of a scale than taking her out to an informal lunch, then ask her out in person while walking her home. You know where she is, so look her in the eye and ask her to go out ON A DATE with you. Your lunch was NOT a date. Taking the time to take her out after school hours with some thought into your night with her would be a date. You're sitting back letting her initiate all the time? What more do you NEED, man?!
She most likely doesn't care for texting. There are people out there who feel the same way, myself included. So, in the nicest way I can possibly say it, stop being a weenie and ask her out in person! Girls find a lack of confidence to be a nasty odor, so find yours!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 March 2014):
 Why not CALL her and ask her out (or something) instead of trying to carry on over text (which she SEEMS to dislike or "not enjoy")?
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