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How can people get STD if both are 100% faithful? Can a STD be inherited from a mother? Not sure how STDs work after hearing things from fellow classmates.

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Question - (27 April 2015) 8 Answers - (Newest, 29 April 2015)
A female Netherlands age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hello dear all and thank you in advance for taking your time for reading this.

I am currently 21 years old and in a 4.5 year, heterosexual relationship with my first and only sexual partner, whom is 20 years himself.

As on both accounts: we were both virgins when we got together and none of us had sexual contact with others before except kissing.

I trust my BF completely and I'm intenting on staying with him for many years as I love him dearly.

Also, his parents told me A LOT about him so I am sure what his history in romance included.

However, I'm not an expert when it comes to STD's.

We (almost) always use double protection like the pill and condoms.

We've done it a few times without condoms however and I am perfectly aware that the pill alone does not prevent STD's.

I am already a bit paranoid about unplanned pregnancy and all.

But how big is the change that we can be infected with STD's when none of us has had a sexual partner before?

Where does the cycle of getting an STD begin anyway? Can a 'clean' person with no sexual history, get a STD from another clean person?

STD's have to begin somewhere, but WHERE? Can STD's be inherited from mother to baby for example? Or from drinking glass or a toilet?

I'm wondering because sometimes the unprotected sex with my bf feels ten times more wonderful and comfortable for us both.

I want to do it with the knowledge that I can enjoy (being with) him for many years to come without having to worry about STD's that could be involved.

I'm asking this purely because I've been wondering for a time and some things that happened to some of my classmates got me thinking...ha ha.

Thank you for your advice!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2015):

Also, herpes can be tested through a blood test . No need for active lesions

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2015):

Whilst jannipeg is right that herpes can be transmitted from mouth to genital . It is an always remains herpes type one .

I have herpes 2 . Have had for 20 plus years . I luves genitally and rarely infects mouths

Herpes one is the type on mouths and can infect both mouths abd genitals

Herpes 1 does not change to herpes 2 if someone with a cold sore gives it to another through oral sex . It remains herpes one occurring genitally

If you go to webmd and look up the actual health drs they give a wealth of information on this and why although theoretical either can occur in either area , type 2 nearly aleays remains genufals whilst type one occurs orally and genitally ... aLWAYS remaining as type 1

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (28 April 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntYou ask if an STD be "inherited" from a mother. I think you might mean transmitted during pregnancy or during childbirth.

I found a link for you that may help you.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada + , writes (28 April 2015):

janniepeg agony auntYou can get oral herpes (simplex 1) that's inherited from your parents. If you have cold sores on your lips and do oral sex with your partner, he could get genital herpes (simplex 2). Herpes is not routinely tested on the STD panel. The only way to test for herpes culture is to do a swab on the open sore.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2015):

Oh and also , yes, as wise old owl says HIV can be passed from mother to baby . However , yeast infections are common in women and are not sexually transmitted . They can technically infect makes and females but are not considered STIs because you do not need to have sex to acquire one

Women often have yeast infection triggered by things like diet or a dose of antibiotics which through out the unique balances in the vagina

If you have symptoms... Go get checked

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (27 April 2015):

Somehow, I'm unsure that you are the age you claim you are.

I suspect you are younger. Everything you've asked is taught in health-class in junior high school. You can even talk to your gynecologist or general-practitioner; and get all the necessary details about the spread of sexually-transmitted diseases you need to know.

Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) can be passed onto an embryo during pregnancy, childbirth, or through breast-feeding. STD's cannot be "inherited" like a gene. They are transferred by infection. The exchange of blood, semen, or bodily fluids. Risk of being infected increases with unprotected-sex, multiple partners, and the sharing of dirty needles between drug-abusers.

You don't know if a guy is a virgin. He can lie about it and have unprotected-sex with other people. All you know is what you're told. You should be very concerned about having unprotected-sex. He can't get pregnant!!! You can!

Something tells me you contracted an STD and you are asking this question in a roundabout way; because you took a risk, got infected, and you trusted your boyfriend.

Go get tested, and never have unprotected-sex with him again. You can ask your doctor to do the quick-test, you can pickup a test in the drugstore. You can go to a free-clinic. A clinic is best; because you will remain anonymous, and they can do a full-screening for every kind of STD and alleviate your paranoia.

Women and girls often get infected with chlamydia, gonorrhea, and yeast infections from guys who are players and lie about being faithful. Never trust that any guy is 100% faithful, and asks you to have unprotected-sex. He's taking a risk with both your health and your life!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2015):

They are called sexually transmitted infections because that is how they are transmitted ..... Sexually !

There are all kinds of myths about toilet seats and inanimate object but the reality is they need sexual ( whether oral or general to genital contact )

The only exception to this is heroes cold sore virus which could be transmitted to someone's genitals or lips if a cold sore is present! there is a huge amount of ignorance and stigma around herpes which is all totally. Unnecessary considering most people in the population carry the virus ( usually oral herpes type 1 )

Herpes type 2 which predominately affects the genitals does not like to

Live above the belt and rarely affects the mouth . However many many people now days have type one on the genitals because of the prevalence of oral sex.

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A male reader, Xearo Trinidad and Tobago +, writes (27 April 2015):

STD stands for sexually transmitted disease. Having said this, there are many facts online about it that I am sure will provide you with enough information.

Starts from someone who has the disease in the first place. It is then transferred from one to the other in the form of sexual intercorse or blood encounters. Blood encounters are scarey because they can range from a simple cut, to unclean medical tools or even mosquitoes. Some STDs can simply require physical contact on private body parts but you should do your research here as there are MANY TYPES of STDs.

Sexual actions do not "generate" STDs from thin air. Your partner or you would have had to been infested from another person.

Practise safe sex but do your research. Being paranoid about a situation helps relatively nothing. It does not hurt to get tested yourself as well as your partner. You can have your blood analysed further for anything that might seem weird besides STD related.

Here is a fact sheet for you

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