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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. So I broke up with my ex girlfriend and ended up exploring my bisexual side. Since September 2015 I have been seeing This guy our meets were intense and we ended up having sex. I freaked out for a couple of weeks and ignored him. He said prior to that that he didn't want to meet any guys but me. When I got back in touch with him he started seeing an 18 year old. We continued meeting the meets were intense we spoke everyday and I started to get feelings with him. Then an incident happened and we didn't see each other for a month. It's important to note that I never wanted a relationship I was open about my feelings and let him know how far we will go. So we last met and it was good but completely different. We arranged to meet again but he let me down this happened over 3 weeks. He then ended it with me because he and an 18 year old boy are in a relationship. I now feel sick with jealousy, I'm angry hurt sad I have so many mixed emotions. I've never had a break up and felt like this and I don't know how to cope. Me 24 Him 33 Other 18 I don't know what to do
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 January 2016):
 I am sorry that you have got hurt in the process, but you have admitted yourself that you did not want a relationship, the thing is when two people have sex without the title, well along the line someone will get hurt. I am sorry it had to be you. Maybe this might give you a life lesson though, if you meet someone in the future maybe give that person all of you and not just sex. Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 January 2016):
 Guess HE did want a relationship, so I get why he stopped seeing you and went with the younger guy (who also wanted a relationship).
I think the the fact that you feel rejected in an way, even though he didn't reject YOU (as a person) but he rejected having a NSA sexual relationship with you, he wanted more than you were willing to give.
The thing with casual sex, it's NOT for everyone.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 January 2016):
 One thing I learned is that, sometimes break up feelings has nothing to do with how good a relationship was, or how good the partner was. It's not even about comparing the new guy he's having. You can say it's your ego that got bruised but it's not as simple as that.
My experience is that when sex is out of the world, you believe no one would match up to it. A part of you dies when that sexual liaison dies also. There was a time when I felt like my sexual life was over and I reached my peak. It's a sexual drug that you are trying to wean from.
I never knew how to cope. I just went to the spa and water was really healing to me. I matured over the years and realized there's more important and fulfilling things than sex. Although sex has the power to touch you in ways you don't understand. Then when you recover you don't know what's the big deal about sex.
Don't try to feel happy. Just try to listen to the body. The heart is meant to be broken and open again. Life is a mystery. You don't have to understand everything.
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