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writes:I'm a shy guy and about two years ago I was having a six year period without a single date. Then I met this girl and started dating and we clicked quite nicely, kissed, finally, on the 5th date. But she was from a different background, and since my parents are very class conscious. So I was afraid of growing a serious relationship with her. As an excuse I told her I was leaving the country for an internship I applied and broke whatever relationship we had developed. In reality I did apply to an internship. I never got accepted and remained in my country. We had occasionally contact through MSN chat and about one year later I asked her out again. It seemed she still was interested and we went out three times and had already kissed again. This time I was struggling to make up my mind again to ask her out seriously. I never dared. We went out occasionally but it was only I who called her and asked her out. She never called me to talk or ask me to see me. Months went on like this, since March until July. Then she started to be more elusive. I found out indirectly she had been dating someone else and after a while she got dumped, or her love with that guy was not corresponded. I never mentioned I knew anything about this to her. Two weeks later I still called her and asked her out, but know she seemed very uninterested. I finally decided to tell her that I really like her but I didn't know if she still liked me. With some gibberish and slightly decorating her response she told me she is not interested in me anymore. I feel she didn’t tell me the whole truth of what she thought now about me. Now I can't stop thinking about it. I feel like an idiot. I feel terribly alone. I know I was an imbecile not to face my parents’ prejudice to someone from a different social class than mine. I don't know what to think about myself. I never have had a girlfriend and now I definitively know I blew my very first serious chance with someone. I fear I'll take years before I meet someone again since I'm so shy. I'm an IDIOT. Now there is nothing left to do to try to fix this. I know that I won't have anything more to say to her and I wouldn't dare calling her again. Or should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response. Actually, my post got edited and I never intended to ask if I had anything more to say to her. I actually don't want to, since I know I screwed up two opportunities. I just needed to share my thought for a moment. Thank you again!
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reader, LDamian  +, writes (28 August 2011):
Listen buddy, you need to be clear from your side first...whatever it is you should let her know what you've got for her..nothing else can help..After you tell her and she doesnt respond properly, then i suggest let her move on same as you...because you both cant reach the destination together..simply because the girl isnt ready...Good luck..
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