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Why does he want to be 'just friends'?

Q.   My boyfriend and I dated for 28 days. We were soo happy together. He would text me all day the 1st coupe of weeks and he'd make me every morning with a 'good morning baby!' and it was so nice. The on the 18th I was with him and some girl popped u...

A.   31 December 2008: Don't waste your time on him. He's not mature enough yet to know what he wants and it sounds like he was most interested in you for physical reasons. I suggest you move on to better guys, they're out there. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Are forgiving and forgetting the same thing in my case?

Q.   I started living with my husband when our daughter was almost 2 years old. He would go to happy hour everynight after work at his favorite bar, he asked me not to come there unless he took me, he said it was his space, so i did what he asked. I ...

A.   30 December 2008: Don't return to an abusive relationship because you want someone else in your life. That is the absolute above everything else. Your daughter is better off with you than with you and a terrible drunk abusive cheater. You don't know how strong of ... (read in full...)

I have strong will power but around him, I just melt!

Q.   Okay well, this is my first post on this site and I really need some advice as I have nowhere else to turn. I'm going to sound like a horrible person, and I guess I am on some level, but I can't stop. Here it goes. I've been with my boyfriend for...

A.   30 December 2008: Well, you have two options here. You can stop talking to him and put him out of your mind and continue your wonderful relationship with your boyfriend. Or, you can say screw your relationship and get down with this guy for one night. One night ... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of gaining weight!

Q.   Not really a relationship question here, but I do think I need some help. I'm 19, 5'5", 112-3 lbs, I have a pretty healthy diet... and I'm terrified of gaining weight. I had a mild case of anorexia when I was thirteen and I'm wondering if it's ...

A.   30 December 2008: work out and eat healthy. get enough sleep, drink enough water. don't get too stressed about anything. ... (read in full...)

Why am I so scared to sleep with him?

Q.   Hi everyone, my problem is short and sweet..... basically I am not a virgin by any means, and have had sex MORE than enough with previous long term boyfriends. I've never been nervous in the bedroom, have always been very experimental, and had a ...

A.   30 December 2008: How it was for me when this happened was, I liked him too much and I didn't want to screw it up. You need to spend more time with him before you jump into it, or, talk to him and let him know that you're nervous. Once you're comfortable getting ... (read in full...)

Cramps and period pain...

Q.   Hey I have a question. So I'm kinda scared I might be pregnant. I havn't had my period yet this month I started on the 27th last month and the 28th the month before that they both lasted about 7 days. I've been cramping and my boobs hurt but they ...

A.   30 December 2008: Your period is likely still regulating, for it to be off is not unusual. Don't worry about it. If you're truly worried, as has been said, go to the drugstore and buy a test. That will tell you for sure. Most likely you have nothing to worry ... (read in full...)

Should I have made a move when she kissed me?

Q.   Hi Me and my girlfriend broke up because she thought i loved her to much? I ran 12 miles to hand her some flowers and to talk about it, however her sister took the flowers and she didn't want to speak to me. as i was running back she called me a...

A.   29 December 2008: No. Give her space to figure out what she wants. ... (read in full...)

I've lost my trust in him

Q.   Hi Aunts. Me and my boyfriend got into a big fight this weekend. A long time ago, we both had a mutual friend(who is a girl, it's his ex girlfriend from when he was younger and still stayed friends) but we had a falling out and stopped speaking...

A.   29 December 2008: Time mends all wounds. If it's meant to be healed, it will heal. Your trust in him is important, and all I can truly say is I hope he's earned it. Good luck.... (read in full...)

What a complete mix up!!!

Q.   Hi, I have just recently left a relationship, the second time round. I actually left on Christmas Eve. To cut a long story short, three years ago i was in a relationship with my partner for 9 years (gay relationship) and it ended when i met my new ...

A.   29 December 2008: Sounds like he just has a multitude of feelings and needs a place to put them. The best thing you can do is live your own life and let him sort out his without interfering, because in the end you'll just hurt yourself. Until he KNOWS where he ... (read in full...)

Could this be true love?

Q.   My question is can a month long relationship in junior high REALLY be a person's first TRUE love. My gf and I wre talking and she says a guy she dated then was her first TRUE love but I dont think a month can constitute that. I sorta believe that ...

A.   29 December 2008: Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and jumped into your relationship too soon. She needs to figure out how she really feels on her own, and this may bring you down, but may also affirm that she stopped dating him for a good reason. Give ... (read in full...)

I have boy friends and a boyfriend who thinks they are more than friends... help!

Q.   so i have a boyfriend.. we went out before, all summer. now we're going out again. it's been a little over a month so far and it's just amazing. i really feel like i'm in love with him. people say you'll know it when it happens.. and we really ...

A.   29 December 2008: This relationship needs time to develop. Once you both have had more time with each other, you'll understand the whole situation more thoroughly. Infatuation differs from love, don't forget that. If your guy friends truly are just good friends of ... (read in full...)

I love my best guy friend but he's going out with my best friend.

Q.   I love my best guy friend but he's going out with my best friend and I want to tell her that I like him but I'm too scared. He also calls me a lot, I try to ignore him at school but I can't. I try to ignore his phone calls but he keeps on calling ...

A.   29 December 2008: If you love him, let him decide. It's his life that would also be affected. Your best friend is a dicey situation which I can't help you with; it is such a touchy situation that you should really decide that for yourself. Either way could work ... (read in full...)

Is my imagination playing tricks on me?

Q.   I have a crush on a guy, and recently found out he feels the same, however i am currently seeing someone. He knows i am seeing someone, and is leaving me to sort out what i want. Thing is, i have been with my guy for over a year, and still can no...

A.   29 December 2008: If your interest is wavering, maybe your relationship with your boyfriend has run its course. However, if you do decide to break up with him, don't do it for the other guy, do it for you. Don't get with that guy immediately because that will be ... (read in full...)

I have to choose between two guys!

Q.   Hello, I need some help and advice. I have to decide between two men and I just dont know what to do. One is my ex. We dated for almost a year, and I know that is a short time but we had chemistry and nobody like him ever made me feel like ...

A.   29 December 2008: You need more time. Let them know what's going on as well. How they react may help you decide. ... (read in full...)

I want him back but how?

Q.   Okay so my problem is I am still in love with my ex boyfriend even though our breakup was almost 2 years ago, and I really want him back! He's the only guy I ever had real feelings for. In elementary school we used to be BEST FRIENDS but I always h...

A.   29 December 2008: Don't focus on getting him back just yet, that might not happen. Work on being a friend to him first. Take it slow. I had this happen to me, and in the end, we broke up again. Build up a solid mental relationship, and if it's meant to happen, a ... (read in full...)

Did he lose service or something? He hasn't texted me all day!

Q.   My boyfriend hasn't texted me for a day. It's really annoying I only texted him twice yesterday and then I was like w/e but, it's really annoying. I'm away in Colordao and I know he likes me alot he tells people and we've been going out for 3 weeks ...

A.   29 December 2008: Wait it out, don't contact him. You'll know what's up once you're back together. Guys often use the 'no service' excuse when they're ready to break things off, not to make things sound bleak, but on the other hand it's quite possible he just can't ... (read in full...)

Bisexual husband?

Q.   Hi all Let me give you a short background first...married 13 years with 2 kids. I am bi myself,came out about 6 years ago. When I came out he was there as I said it outloud to both of us, and we came to an understanding I would not explore or e...

A.   29 December 2008: I have no experience with this, I will tell you that much. But in the sense of general relationship advice, it sounds like you have a great deal of communication in your relationship, which is excellent. This could just take some more time for him ... (read in full...)

She has been cutting me off from everyone!

Q.   hey, well as it is coming to the end of 2008, i have been thinking back, and someone asked me 'who is the best new person you have met this year?' and then it hit me. i have met no one new, let alone the best one. and i have lost alot of people, and ...

A.   29 December 2008: You should be able to live your own life and include her. If she can't deal with this, she's not a good friend. Talk to her, see what's really on her mind. If you aren't able to have a good time with new people and her, you might want to tone ... (read in full...)

Should I contact her or is this a lost cause?

Q.   Hi, 3 months ago I left my girlfriend of 16 months, now I think maybe I made a huge mistake. I thought maybe she had fallen out of love with me. For one thing, she works with an ex-boyfriend who is also her best friend. They go out of town t...

A.   29 December 2008: If she's not involved with anyone, you could contact her. Women need closure, and you didn't give that to her. Give it a shot if you want to, but remember why you ended it the first time. Closure could also be the problem for you. If you love ... (read in full...)

We've kissed and he has a girfriend...

Q.   I have been working with someone for about 6months now, we get one really well, always laughing and have a weird connection, like we've known each other for years. He recently told me that he likes me, but he has a live in girlfriend of 12yrs. He is ...

A.   29 December 2008: The biggest thing to consider here is, if you were to start dating, he doesn't have qualms with kissing someone else while you're dating. Remember that. ... (read in full...)

Am I wasting time waiting for him? He was unfaithful.

Q.   me and my boyfriend were going through a hard time recently, (all down to him being unfaithfull last year)i dont always bring it up but there are times when it gets to me and i do make references about it. over the phone we had a discussion, mainly ...

A.   29 December 2008: Honestly? Don't waste your time. If he was unfaithful, he will be again. He is no good for you. Emotions will be there, yeah, but they will fade with time. Not only that, there's plenty of great guys out there who aren't getting your attention ... (read in full...)

How do I become more relaxed around guys?

Q.   I need some advice on how to become more relaxed around guys, to cut a long story short I am 24 year old female who has never been near the opposite sex (like I say long story), I have recently been flirting with this guy but I know that I am to ...

A.   29 December 2008: Spend time with him and be comfortable with him. If you aren't comfortable with yourself and your insecurities, he will be able to tell. Everyone has insecurities, but if you are afraid to talk about them, you aren't yet comfortable enough with ... (read in full...)

Am I destined for permanent fuck buddy status?

Q.   I'm 23 years old and I have had literally enough boyfriends to equal my age. Its really depressing because no matter who I date (older or yonger, race, religion, whatever)every guy I've ever dated only looks at me as a fuck buddy. I recently...

A.   29 December 2008: It sounds like your outlook on relationships is the true problem, one I've encountered myself. Make sure you distinguish attraction from affection. Being drawn to someone physically is not a good reason to start sleeping with them, really. It's ... (read in full...)

How can I be more confident sexually?

Q.   I have been seeing this amazing guy for about six months, he has been great with me but says he wishes I was more forward in makin moves, I have always let him do the work, lack of confidence I suppose, he wants me to go on top, how can I become ...

A.   29 December 2008: Whatever you're insecure about is making you self-conscious. You need to be comfortable with yourself. Once you are, you can be comfortable with him, too. Dirty talk isn't for everyone, and I myself feel awkward doing it. Not that this is really ... (read in full...)

We love each other but she wants a break! What can I do?

Q.   I have been seen this girl (I am white she is nigerian), for a year now and we grew to love each other, I gave her everything and we joked together and the sex was amazing. I live with my parent at 29 (i know it sux but property in ireland is ve...

A.   29 December 2008: A break signifies she isn't ready. Breaks are really a way of testing how you'll react to a break-up. It could not be the case here, and I hope it isn't. Give her her space. She will appreciate that beyond anything else. If it falls apart, it ... (read in full...)

Shaving pubic area

Q.   Ok well im only thirteen and like any young girl i have pubic hair. Many girls in my school have attempted to shave their pubic hair and naturally it itches and whatnot. I was curious as to if there was any way you could get rid of your pubic hair ...

A.   29 December 2008: Shaving's the easiest way to get rid of it, and when you first start shaving, it's going to itch. After shaving a few times, you won't itch anymore. Make sure you use a sharp blade and shaving cream so you don't cut yourself, and don't try to ... (read in full...)

Have sex? Or wait?

Q.   Hey Everyone, sorry for the lenqth in advance. But I'm a fifteen year old qirl and I've been datinq my boyfriend for three months. We are very much in love with eachother. For the past couple of days I've really been thinkinq about sex. ...

A.   29 December 2008: You should probably wait longer. I jumped into sex at 15, but I did it with a guy I knew wasn't emotionally committed, which in a way was good because I never developed an emotional connection to him. With someone you do have a connection with, ... (read in full...)

Shes mad and not speaking to me because she couldn't get in the club

Q.   ive been best mates with a girl for 5 years recently on a night out she didnt get into the club i got in and bouncer wudnt let anymore people in. i tried everything to speak to bouncer to get her in.. now shes annoyed with me and putting me o...

A.   29 December 2008: That's not likely what she's really pissed about. There are probably bigger issues at hand that have been nagging at her but she's been ignoring. Something insignificant like this is the leaping point for her emotions to come out. Talk to her ... (read in full...)

Does my ex still like me...?

Q.   On Christmas Eve I was driving back home and saw an ex getting out of his car near my local supermarket (I'd not seen him for 5 months). We both waved and I must admit I got a few butterflies in my tummy because I still hold a torch for him even ...

A.   29 December 2008: Womanizers are awful. They are so charming, and you'll be pulled in every single time. They can just look at you that certain way that makes you want to pass out. They love the attention because really, they're insecure. He's likely only leading ... (read in full...)

My guy and his best female friend have weird relationship

Q.   I have been dating this guy for two months and one of his best friends is a girl. I know her and she is nice to me but there is something i cant really put my finger on it but something weird about their relationship. She has a husband and a child ...

A.   29 December 2008: You should bail on this relationship. Keep him in your life to some extent if he really means something to you, but for now, he doesn't know where his feelings really lie. He needs to figure out what he's feeling before he commits to someone. ... (read in full...)

My ex is texting me and being a real jerk

Q.   I'm really lost right now. Okay so me and my ex have been textin since xmas eve, he was soo nice and so sweet the first few days then things started to go down hill. He wouldnt call when I asked him eventhough he promised he would. I could understa...

A.   29 December 2008: This is something you're going to figure out on your own no matter what advice you get, so the best I can do is tell you what I know out of experience. This guy only wants your body, and if you are emotionally connected to him still, this is only ... (read in full...)

Am I causing myself a lot of harm?

Q.   Hi, i hope i can get some advice. I dont drink as much fluid as i should...some days i havea glass of ice tea and thats it. I dont ever feel thirsty. I sometimes have to force myself to drink.Am i causing myself alot of harm??? My colleagues go ...

A.   29 December 2008: If your urine is very yellow, you should drink more. I used to not ingest enough fluids, but I've been making it a habit recently. If your urine burns, this also can indicate a level of dehydration or even a bladder infection. I would say ... (read in full...)

Can things work the second time around?

Q.   I have been getting very close to a lady who was on the verge of divorce, but her husband has manipulated her to go back together, they did seperate for months, he was gambling and drinking, but it does look as if they are back together, they were ...

A.   29 December 2008: The big deal is, if it didn't work out a first time, though feelings may return, it ended for a reason. If they get back together a second time, it will almost surely end for the same reason it did the first time. For her to not realize that is ... (read in full...)

Kissing age?

Q.   just looking for others outlooks but does anyone think 16 is too young to be making out with a boyfriend of six months? ...

A.   29 December 2008: Truth be told, I had already lost my virginity by 16. The biggest thing to consider is there isn't an age for sexual intimacy, though too young is too young. When you are comfortable with kissing and you want to do it of your own will, and not ... (read in full...)

Is this all there is to marriage?

Q.   I've been with my husband for 12 years and am seriously considering leaving him. He loves me but everything I ever do seems to irritate him. We don't make love - we have sex once a month and it's hideous. We don't have a lot to talk about and s...

A.   29 December 2008: It sounds like walls are indeed being built, and these often stem from stress in one's own life, which will always drip into that of a relationship. Look into stress relieving activities. Sex relieves stress, but until you're attracted to him ... (read in full...)

Why do I get so jealous when he visits his mother?

Q.   Why is that i get so jealous even when he is visiting his own mother? We have been dating for 7 months now and he happens to be devoiced and he is 12 older then me. Can it be that im afraid he might run into his ex wife, even if she is not in the ...

A.   29 December 2008: The best thing to do in this situation is to first analyze cognitively for yourself what's going on. Is he really doing anything wrong or are you just sensitive to his interactions with other women? Jealousy affects all of us, and while is ... (read in full...)

How do you go down on girl??

Q.   how do you go down on girl?? oral sex?? wots it like??...

A.   29 December 2008: Don Juan De Marco said it best: A woman should be touched like silk. Barely touching the skin, floating above it like on a cushion of air. If you just dive right in and ravage a woman like you're at an all-you-can-eat buffet, well at least for me, ... (read in full...)

How can I give my boyfriend really good head?

Q.   How can I give my boyfriend really good head? I've only done it once with another guy, and need ways to figure out how to make him feel good even though I can't deep throat. Thanks....

A.   29 December 2008: The key factors to giving really great head are reading your partner and doing it out of your own personal enjoyment along with his. If he's asking you for it and you aren't enthusiastic, he's not going to enjoy it nearly as much. While tec... (read in full...)

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