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22-25,
anonymous
writes:I recently found notes on facebook between my boyfriend of eight months and my best friend about how he had developed a crush on her and thinks shes the prettiest girl he knows. He says it was just a week that he had a crush on her and doesn't mean it anymore. Says he loves me, doesn't wanna be with anyone else! I'm hurt because both my boyfriend and best friend lied to me and atleast he's apologetic but shes been a complete bitch. I really wanna forgive him, but im so hurt cuz all the stuff he said to her is what he says to me. Should I take him back? or move on?
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reader, LindsayLove  +, writes (6 October 2007):
walk away from him now. Tell him that you can't be with him while he has liked someone else, your best friend to! If he really wants you and loves you than he'll come back.But be warned, he might come back because she didn't work out. SO make sure he only loves you.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (4 October 2007):
 It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. It seems like you're the definite option in his life, and he doesn't want to lose you, because the other girls might not work out. I have been in this situation, and the best thing that you can do is walk away, and let him figure out what he wants.
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (4 October 2007):
 Did you ask him if it was only a week that he had a crush on her, who's it going to be next week?
It must have been one heck of a crush if he took the time to notify her and tell her he does. I see (not sexually) many pretty women. I don't take the time to go up to them and say "I have a crush on your, you are the pretties girl." then "nope sorry, feelings gone." Crushes don't just up and go that quick.
Let me ask you this. Do you think it's OK for a guy or a girl to have an attraction toward a friend of their partner. Even to the point that if they were single, they'd go for it?
Sure it is, but when you're with someone the attraction or crush needs to remain a silent mental feeling, not one that you act on and have a chance of hurting someone you claim to love.
I think your man was trying to play the field. This not only hurt you, but hurt your relationship with a friend as well. Why did she lie to you? What's her reason for being a bitch. Now he may have told her how he feels. Is she being this way because she doesn't like him that way, or because she does?
It's up to you if you take him back. Personally I wouldn't because if your partner really wanted to be with you, he wouldn't have crossed the boundaries with your friend.
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