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writes:So today i went to the gynecologist and she said that the only thing that would help with the issue i have is birth control. My mom does not know that i am sexually active and isnt sure about the idea... I on the other hand want to go on the pill for the reason i was there and because I am actually sexually active and feel its time to go on the pill. I dont know how to tell my mom because i am only 15 and if possible i would like to avoid telling her that i am sexually active all together... Now before anyone calls me names; i have only ever had sex with one guy and he is my boyfriend of about 2 years now. What do i tell my mom? should i say that i want it incase i feel ready or should i push the idea of it helping my issue? My issue by the way is a very irregular period and terrible pain during it. So what should I do, both me and the gynecologist think its best for me to get on the pill even though i AM safe when i have sex?
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (4 October 2011):
 If you are mature enough to address being safe with sex, making health choices regarding your medication and menstural cycle, then you are also mature enough to talk to your Mom.
:) You can do it! It just a better policy to be honest.
Yeah, you might shock your Mom, but she might be impressed with how responsible you are being too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): Just tell her the truth - that it's for your periods.
I'm in the same position as you... only i'm 20. I went to my GP solely about painful periods, and going on the pill was her suggestion too. It's just an added benefit that it's a form of contraception too.
It's your choice whether you choose to tell your mum about your sexual activity or not. Your GP cannot tell her due to patient confidentiality. However, if you are close enough to her, it may be best that you tell her. What's the worst that could happen?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 October 2011):
Well would you rather tell your mom or have a baby? Accidents do happen, no matter how careful you try to be.
I know it's scary telling your mom, but a lot of us had to at one time. I know I had to!
I would also go with the irregular period excuse--but if she asks if you and your boyfriend have had sex (if she knows you've been with your bf for two years, she isn't stupid) I think you should tell her the truth. I'm pretty sure she would rather that you be on the pill and be protected from pregnancy than help you raise a child.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I don't see the problem. If you are being prescribed the pill to regularize your irregular ,painful periods, just tell your mom that you are taking the pill to regularize your irregular , painful periods- which happens to be the truth.
Nevertheless, I'd like to add : if you are ashamed/scared to admit you are sexually active to your own mom- then you are too young to have sex anyway. Sex is for women, not for kids, and a woman is never afraid to own her actions.
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reader, landomando +, writes (4 October 2011):
Say you are having cramps and your gynecologist says it will help... I know this because my girlfriend told me lol
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reader, babylav  +, writes (4 October 2011):
look dear you are still a growing child ..i would advice you to not take any pills.use condoms and irregular period needs treatment not birth control pills!your gyno must be a quack..seriously.be wise don't do foolish things which would hamper your growth and reproductive system.i understand you cannot tell your mom that you are sexually active.but if i were your mom i wouldn't let you take pills at this age at all ..noways.
being on the pills have negative effects on a woman's hormonal cycle,future prospects of conceiving and even looks..you could get bloated and even the growth of your breasts ,height everything can get affected,if we go too much against nature ,nature goes against us...you are too young now and have a whole life ahead of you...think well before getting into something.
Be safe by having protected sex ,on safe periods of your cycle and doing it less often..once you are a full grown adult you can rethink about pills.don't just do things because your peers do them..
i myself am 19 have protected sex regularly with my boyfriend..but there's noway in the world i'l go on pills until iv'e had a baby..a lot of couples become
childless as a result of having abused their reproductive system with pills ,tubectomy etc.
this is my take honey...there might be a lot of people out there who haven't had problems with pills but i and many wise doctors in my country feel its best to be as natural as possible.stick to condoms.for your irregular period check if you have polycystic ovaries ...exercise regularly ,eat healthy food and take medications for whatever the detected problem is.ask your mom to take you to a gyno for that
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 October 2011):
 If it's because you have irregular periods, tell her it's for that reason, since it's the truth.
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