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writes:Dear CupidMy ex-bf broke up with me a month ago. As soon as dumped me he blocked me in facebook, messager, phone.....He was verbally and emotionally very abusive towards the end of the relationship i.e. for past 6 months. He called me worst names while breaking up with me. And he owes me money. I cried everyday for the past 1 month but never even tried to contact him.Now suddenly he sent me friends request in facebook. Why is he doing this, is there a hidden agenda here, or is he trying to make me more miserable. I havent responded yet to his friends request. What should i do, Pls help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): Don't respond, just decline his request. Yes, he is trying to make you more miserable. He feels like he is losing control over you, since you've made no contact, so he is trying to lure you in again. So he can abuse you, manipulate you and mistreat you again. And he can't even make a solid effort to get in touch such as pick up the phone and actually talk to you.
Guys like that have no shame. What he did to you was unforgivable. Not just break up with you, but he had to add salt to the wound and on top of that block you on facebook, his phone and everything. That is so lame and childish. Yet he shamelessly readds you, with no apology or explanation.
Forget this fool. He's a loser and a half. And he's crazy.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (29 May 2013):
 Honey, just block him. He treated you badly and ceased all contact when you needed him the most. Accepting his friendship will set you back and confuse you regarding whether there is hope for a reconciliation.
Dont give this another thought and ignire his invite!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): You should ignore it and cut off all ties with him forever.
on that note, it does not matter his agenda or reasons. he is not part of your life anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): hes doing it because you didnt contact him and he thought you would. hes confused as he thought you would die without him. dont accept his friend request and then he will probably be shocked that you dont jump to him and he may try another way to get in touch. just keep ignoring everything he does and know that its his silly little games. Forget the money and forget him, your the one in contol by ignoring him now. And he wont like it as he thinks you need him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 May 2013):
 it does not matter why he's doing it... worrying about someone's agenda is a waste of your energy.
If he owes you enough, take him to small claims court for the money... otherwise, kiss that money goodbye and call it payment for a lesson learned (never lend money you can't afford to give away)
I know that for me I've blocked ex partners before and then when I'm done being UBER mad, I'll unblock them and maybe friend them again... but I see no need to do so if it's still upsetting to you as clearly it is.
I would not give him a chance to weasel his way back into your life and start abusing you again.
I would not care what an ex wants.. he's an EX for a reason and should stay that way. I agree that blocking him is the best idea. He probably just wants to make sure you are still miserable with out him and that's just creating drama.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Block him. Why would you want to know what an insulting, verbally and emotionally abusive man is up to? He's not up to anything good, that's pretty clear.
If he wants to apologize, he can write you a letter and mail it, including a check for the money he owes you. I would keep him out of your life so you are not being facebook-stalked or looking at his nonsense every day.
Block him, block him, block him.
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