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female
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anonymous
writes:I have been with this guy that I lost my virginity to for a couple of months. He told me that he was studying to be a lawyer and therefore too busy to have a serious relationship, but i foolishly kept sleeping with him hoping that he will change his mind. After some time away from him, I realized that he only liked me for the sex and this relationship was going nowhere. Not only that, I really think he is sleeping with other people. He keeps texting me but I respond with cold answers telling him I dont want to see him. I am still not over him, as much as I want to be.What can i do to stop thinking about him? I feel like I will never find a serious relationship and a guy who loves me for me. Girls, have you been in this situation, and how did you get over it? Also, did you find your prince charming after jerks like this?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 October 2008):
 I smooched up quite a few toads before I found my prince. Yours is right around the corner, keep your eyeswideopen. Good name!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): Hey girl
I have been in the same situation this happened to me as well and I'm still not over the break-up, it feels like I never will be and I'll never find a prince charming!!
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (20 September 2008):
 Well, I am impressed. Many times girls in your position don't figure it out until the guy dumps them. I think it's awesome that you have taken things in your own hands. You decided this guy was not giving you what you needed and so you broke it off and moved forward. You don't need to keep responding to his texts, just ignore him. As long as you are hanging onto him, your prince charming will not be able to come around.
And yes, many of us have been in your position and many of us hoped to change the situation and many of us were convinced we would never meet the one.
But he is out there for you. Just keep on being yourself, do what you want to do and have the hobbies that make you happy. This way, a man will learn to appreciate you for your special gifts and he will then sweep you off your feet. It will happen to you I am sure.
Again, what I am so impressed with is that you took yourself out of a situation that was not working for you and that is very hard to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): Just don't let yourself be taken advantage of again and I know you will find someone who is perfect for you. Someone who appreciates you and wants to have a long-lasting relationship with you. Trust me, he's out there and you/ he will find you/him.
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reader, starismine1 +, writes (19 September 2008):
 yes, you will definitely forget about him in time and find someone who cares about you, and yes it does hurt to feel like you were being used for sex, the first time and even the 50th time (as some women have found and hopefully you never will). The best thing you can take away from this experience is that it was a life lesson, perhaps a painful one but one indeed. It's so important to have sex with someone because you really like him and want sexual fulfillment with him, without expecting anything more than that. If you use sex to get a relationship with a guy, you won't ever get one. If you find it easy to feel emotional involvement with a guy, wait to become intimate with someone until you get to know him and know he isn't just in it for sex.
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reader, starismine1 +, writes (19 September 2008):
yes, you will definitely forget about him in time and find someone who cares about you, and yes it does hurt to feel like you were being used for sex, the first time and even the 50th time (as some women have found and hopefully you never will). The best thing you can take away from this experience that it was a life lesson, perhaps a painful one but one indeed. It's so important have sex with someone because you really like him and want sexual fulfillment with him, without expecting anything more than that. If you use sex to get a relationship with a guy, you won't ever get one. If you find it easy to feel emotional involvement with a guy, wait to become intimate with someone until you get to know him and know he isn't just in it for sex.
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