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writes:I went to the movies with a friend who I have known since Kindergarten (we're in 8th now). I've liked her for a long while but never really told. Feelings were probably mutual for all this time... anyways. The theatre was rather empty, around 10 or more people not including us. So we had a bit more freedom. We shared an armrest, our arms and elbows touching for pretty much the whole movie until the battle scene at the end. It felt like nothing I had ever experienced before. Neither during or after the movie did either of us mention it. We talked a lot through the movie and we were both flirting with each other. Again, neither of us mentioned it during or after the movie. That night, I didn't go to sleep until around 3 in the morning. Why? Because I was thinking about her.My family moved 2 minutes away from our old house about a week or two ago. Our new neighbors have three cats, two of them Siamese which are both very friendly and jump over the wall on the property line of their house and our house and basically demand your attention. My mother's friend came over with her three children, a ten year old and two six year old twins. One of the cats jumped over and I took two pictures of them and texted them to her. She replied that she was jealous. Then I asked her what she was doing and she said that she was at/ the mall. I then replied saying asking if she would "rather be at my house with the cat than at the mall?". She didn't reply after that. This currently is the second night. It's 4:20 in the morning, no sleep, because I was thinking about her. Before you answer, I am 13, don't tell me I should wait 2 years to ask her out or that I am too young or not. I'm not asking you about age. Even though that is not welcome, if you were planning to answer with the usual hilarious crap, please do so. It's 3:45 in the morning and I have nothing else better to do than use my laptop and think about her.Now here is a list of my questions.1. She started the armrest thing, was she flirting with me?2. How come she didn't say anything about the armrest or flirting in general during or after the movie?3. Is it weird or even somewhat normal that I am up at 4 in the morning thinking about her?4. Why do you think she didn't text me back?5. Would it be weird if I texted her back? 6. What should I say?7. How should I confront her about the flirting if that's what it was?8. How can I get some sleep?9. Do you think she likes me?10. Am I crazy?Thank you for reading...
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 1. No, girls do this, its a shy way of flirting with you.
2. Girls don't say that they're flirting.
3. No, your a teenager, I used to do it all the time :) Not so much now, I need my sleep now for exams! Try and get some sleep!
4. I expect she was busy/no signal/ ran out of credit or just thinking deeply!
5. Yes if you text her now, but maybe try again tomorrow, just not too early on :)
6. Improvise :) just be nice! Maybe ask her out again soon.
7. Don't! Girls hate being confronted!
8. Warm milk, count sheep, sleeping tablets.
9. I think she does, shes just thinking about her options.
10. Nope, just a teenager :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): It all depends on what movie where you sat and who payed the bill if you sat in the back corrner or front row its flirting if you bolth payed for your own ticket and popcorn shes not into you or wants to be generous if you saw an action movie bad choice if you saw a kids movie comedy or insperacional movie theres somthing but a action would be better for talking and getting to know you better
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 June 2010):
1 - Yes, there was some flirting.
2 - She's as shy as you are, but was pretty comfortable with it
3 - Perfectly when you like them that much.
4 - She was either busy, or she was shy.
5 - Text her again tomorrow
6 - All you need to to is say hi, and ask her how her time at the mall was. Don't worry about the whole cat thing.
7 - Don't confront, that's too strong. Just be relaxed and spend more time getting to know her. You only went out once and need more time.
8 - Write everything you feel for her down on a piece of paper. Then shut your computer off and lie in the dark.
9 - She does seem to like you, but it's still a little to soon to tell.
10 - No, you just fancy her.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Woah that's a long list of questions! OK here goes:
1. If anything, it was very mild flirting. But I know that I could share an armrest with a guy mate without flirting. I wouldn't take that as a sign if I were you as it could give you false hope.
2. Either she didn't consider it to be flirting, or she felt awkward or self conscious. At your age, people feel really self conscious about flirting. But again, don't take it that she meant to flirt back, just in case she did't mean to and you got the wrong impression.
3. Not at all weird. You were psyched up after what happened, your adrenaline was probably pumping, plus the emotional stress, which can prevent sleep.
4. There could be any number of reasons - she didn't know what to say, she didn't want to give you false hope, she didn't get round to replying or forgot, she didn't get your text, she ran out of credit or battery, you didn't receive her reply, she didn't want people to know she was flirting with you.
5. No it wouldn't be weird at all, but don't try and sound suggestive, pushy or clingy. Anything that will get a friendly reply, just to know she isn't off with you, before you try flirting again.
6. Kinda explained that in number 5.
7. Don't confront her. That's almost like backing her into a corner and either forcing her to admit to liking you bluntly (and worry about being turned down by you and embarrassing herself), tell you she likes you when she doesn't because she doesn't want to upset you, or not be able to let you down gently and put it bluntly and then feel bad about it.
8. Drink Horlicks and wind down before bed. Let your brain become less active. Don't go online or watch tv. Dim the lights and read a book. But, I'm afraid, that until you get used to being with/without her, not much you can do!
9. She might. She might not. If she does then she definitely feels self conscious about it, probably because she's worried you don't like her back or nervous about what to do or what to say to you.
10. You're not crazy. Just a typical young teenager. Most of us were like that when we were younger!
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