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writes:I gave birth to my lovely son 10 months ago. Problem is, ever since I found out I was pregnant, my confidence and self esteem has plummeted, and it's got worse since I gave birth. I'm only a bit heavier than what I was Pre Pregnancy, and I've got horrible gross stretch marks and a proper jelly belly. and Obviously since giving birth it feels as though it's different down below. I just can't find anything attractive about this body now. It just doesn't feel like it's my body any more and I'm not really interested in having sex anywhere near as much as I used to, and when we do have sex I feel really icky afterwards. I just wondered if any ones been through the same thing and does it get better??
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 it does get better...
two things.. talk to the doctor about seeing if you need a bit of anti-depressants just for a bit to get back on track.
are you breast feeding? that can be a double edged sword. Good for you and for the baby but it can keep the hormones out of whack…
are you eating properly and getting a good bit of exercise. (a lovely walk with baby in stroller is a great thing to do every day)….
Try and get as much rest as you can…. It took you 9 months to get that jelly belly and it takes a while to go away…
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reader, shellz +, writes (24 February 2012):
I promise you this will get better but you have to be willing to help the process along! Trust me, I have two kids and stretch marks galore to prove it! I was once in your shoes and here's what I did:
1) Take some time for yourself - set aside an hour a day to read or do something only you enjoy!
2) EXERCISE! It's good for your body and mind!
3) Eat healthy! Again, same with the exercise, it's not only good for your body but for your mind.
I struggled with what I felt was an unattractive figure for almost four years before I decided to do something about it. Four months later and twenty pounds lighter, I only wish I had done it SOONER!
Best wishes and good luck!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 February 2012):
 It does get better. One of the best remedies is to start exercising. It can be as simple as going for a walk. Put the little one in a stroller and get going. If you can afford a gym membership that might be another good idea, but it's not for everyone. Exercise will help two fold. 1. it will help your body get back into shape and 2. it will help your mood.
After baby #1 I did spin classes at a gym that had baby sitting, it was a blast and it got me back to riding my mountain bike and back in shape pretty fast.
As for the stretch mark, honey you earned those stripes!
Products such as :
Maderma Stretch Mark Therapy.
Bella B Tummy Honey Butter.
Keri Renewal Stretch Mark Minimizer
Just to name a few can also help reduce the stretch marks.
If you can't get rid of that "i feel like crap feeling" I think talking to your doctor might be a good idea, no need to suffer in silence.
Chin up!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 yes, and yes it does get better. However, just to be on the safe side, talk to a professional in the field, infant health nurse, midwife, community nurse, whoever it usually is that weighs your baby and talks about his development.
You may still have some chemical imbalances, your hormones may still be a little out of wack and it would be a good idea to make sure you are not suffering a little from the 'baby blues."
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