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writes:So I've known this guy for 15 years, but we've never really talked. Over the years we've seen each other at parties, sometimes drunk and other times not, and we talk at all of the parties. Before Christmas, we talked while I was drunk and he was sober and it was nice. then on New Years Eve, we were together and flirting throughout the night and he kissed me at midnight. I think he's pretty cute and he was apparently telling everyone that night how amazing I am - but he was still drunk. So he got my number and texted all day on New Years day. I know some people think drunkenness means there were no real feelings involved and we haven't talked since really. I just don't know if I should talk to him or if I should let it go and say it was just a fun memory. But he's really sweet and cute and it'd be nice to have a guy in my life. I'm just so confused!
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (22 January 2013):
Alchohol is a social lubricant and generally shows people the real you as it lets inhibitions go. If he continues to contact you via sms or call then theres a good chance he is genuinely interedted in you. I would say talk to him and see where it goes.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (6 January 2013):
Abella’s right, this needs a conversation with the both of you sober. That’s because whether it was sincere or not would depend on whether he actually has feelings for you and would be interested in you, or whether it was just because he was drunk. He does sound keen though, so the point is to start the conversation by asking whether he would have wanted to kiss you when sober, or would he like to consider dating? Of course if you’re not interested in him, forget it. But if you are, I think he’s going to need you to talk the truth out of him if he’s needing to get drunk to show what he really wants. But do prepare for news you don’t want to hear, Abella advises to proceed with caution. I second that.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (6 January 2013):
 Some men need a few drinks to get the courage to do what they want to do anyway.
But are too scared to do it when sober.
That said I would trust a sober kiss more than a kiss when a person has medicated themselves with alcohol in order to lose their ambitions. Men often do more outrageous things when drunk and then try to laugh it off later when they are sober. Alcohol can also make some men more amorous and they feel encouraged to approach women who they might not consider when sober.
When you see him next try to have a good talk to him before he is more obviously intoxicated.
So proceed with caution.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (6 January 2013):
He seems interested to me but if you wont really know unless you try and actually make an attempt. I think the biggest eye opener is that he still texted you all and on the new years day itself, which is really admirable so I think you should act asap.
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