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Are guys playing games when they first act interested towards a girl and then choose to ignore her?

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Question - (28 July 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 29 July 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, *lisaVali writes:

Okay so, i really need guys to answer this questiom, or girls due to their experience with dating.

So, ive been talking to this guy for 2 weeks now, and I've met him at a party actually, and he said hi to me and tried to talk to me but he looked shy and nervous.

A few days after the party, he talked to me again, and added me on social medias, and also he asked for my number.

He was very nice and always tried to keep the convo along and always texted me first.

But recently he have been acting really weird.

1- If a guy admitted that he was shy when he talks to me in person, and he also told me he wanted to compliment me but he was very nervous.

But when texting, he act all confident, flirts/ complimens me alot, calls me beautiful/pretty etc... Do guys do this to the girl they like? Or do they just do it with any girl that they think of her as a friend?

2- If a guy notice that a girl comments on other guy's photos, amd then whem chatting with him, he talks about other girls and tell me 'isnt she pretty? // Shes beautiful right?'. Do guys do this to make a girl jealous? Or is he just acting as a jerk who likes any hot girl?

3- If a girl replied after 8-12 hours, do you think that she's not interested? And then you start to play some games with her such as : Not texting her first/ ignores the text/ or wont bother yourself to keep the convo going? Would a guy who likes a girl do this to her? Or is he just another heartbreaker? If so, why?

4- if a guy opens up to a girl and tells her why he's feeling annoyed or sad.

Or asks her some personal questions. And talks about thwta he was doing today on details, as well as talking about his friends/ family/ his problems/ his memories etc...

Does that mean that he likes her? Or is he just a chatterbox?

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A female reader, lucky03 United States +, writes (29 July 2015):

He could be playing you. My ex acted like that with me in the beginning only to find out he was chasing other girls. Then when we were actually together he was looking for others doing this same thing. My advice is if your intuition is telling you something and you're already worried then something is wrong.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2015):

WHOA girl!

you got a tough one there and I take my hat off for you, but I'll try to "fill you in" on my experiences I had so far. I don't know if it's going to help you, but hey, you never know. (I'm a girl just if you're wondering.)

I dated this guy about six months ago and he's five-six years older than me.

We had a long distance relationship, I'm in South Africa and he's in the UK.

It really worked on me, meaning it was stressful because I knew there may be a chance that he's playing me and maybe even cheating on me or on some other girl.

We met on this gaming site and we became friends. He was really talkative and "understanding" towards me and I fell for it.

Then one day out of the blue he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend, I thought about it and taking a chance I said yes.

Nobody really knew about our "relationship" and this carried on for almost a month. Then just two weeks before our one month he went on vacation to America with some of his friends, so we could only chat on email. I knew what he looked like for we exchanged photos, (which I must admit was pretty stupid of me).

Then while he was away I met this other guy on the gaming site, and he was so nice.

So to make a long story short we were friends. Now I must admit something very embarrassing... I started to "date" this new guy while my "boyfriend" was in America. I know not a very nice thing to do, especially for somebody acting like an agony aunt.

This new guy knew about my bf and he agreed to keep things casual. Trust me I DID feel bad about what I was doing, then later I couldn't keep it up anymore.

I told him I wanted to make a choice. I wanted to dump my bf because I felt bad and something still bothered me about him. But in my head I also wanted to dump the new guy.

Stuff happened and I had to leave the gaming site, I didn't dump my bf but I also didn't leave the new guy because I had to leave the site. (I wasn't in trouble on the site, it was something to do with money etc.)

My email got a bit hacked so I had to get a new email address. I deleted my bf's email and stuff, also silently letting him know things are over. Ever since I didn't speak to any of those two.

I guess what I'm trying to say out of my story is get to know the person a little better and try NOT to date before then. Because if you date that guy and something goes wrong then that can affect your life dramatically and give you a scar.

You have to trust him 100% before you make a choice like that.

So my point of view on all of what you said... get together face to face, sit him down and talk. Not about stuff like other people or stupid little things.

Talk about you guys' relationship if you want to call it that and ask him to be honest. Try to keep an eye on his body language too. If something's off, well then try and sort that out. If you can't and it's still bothering you then be CAREFUL. A relationship is not of any value if you don't feel certain about it. And ask him why he acts like all of that.

I hope this helps a bit.

Good luck. ^-^ blessed be

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