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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. Well my boyfriend, who's my ex now, has been treating me terribly. We've been through so much, well i've been through so much with him 'til it doesn't matter what he do, i'll take him back. He has been caught cheating numerous of times, 5 times to be exact, he's very disrespectful, he constantly lies to me, he hits me, he doesn't show any affection or that he cares, the list goes on. So recently i broke up with him. I just got fed up with all of his bs. It seems as if every time we break up, he start to show he loves me and cares, but it's just for a few days then we're back to this...today, i sent him a msg and i was just telling him i want him out my life forever and i don't want him to call, txt or msg me and he was like ok bye. That hurt me but it's like every time we break up, he tries to do things he suppose to do when we're together but we we're together, he treats me like crap and shows me no attention or affection. I want him back so bad because he mean more that anything to me but i don't think that's a good idea. It's like no matter what he have done or do, cheat, lie, disrespect me, i always find myself taking him back. i don't know if i should stay or go because of the love i have for him. Any advice on this situation because i can't stop these tears from falling but this isn't the first time it happen?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 July 2011):
 You are showing the classic signs of a woman in an abusive relationship. The thing you need to find out is why you feel so poorly about yourself you are willing to tolerate physical, emotional and psychological abuse.
I would highly recommend you go see a counselor about that and cut contact with him for now. You can always revisit that later but only AFTER you have seen the counselor for a while. That will put some clarity back into your relationship-goggles, which at the current time are clouded with wishful thinking and a little bit of masochism.
I have links for you which I think you should read.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/love-shouldnt-hurt-signs-of-abusive-behaviour.html
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/relationships/171-warning-signs-that-youre-dating-a-loser
Good luck to you as you figure out how to learn to live without being abused.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Sincerely sorry OP.
Despite that, I stand by my point that you two should stay away from each other. I realise it may be hard, but you need to find the willpower from somewhere.
He hits you, lies to you, doesn't show any affection! You are letting yourself be in this situation. Get out of it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAt dmartin89, i didn't say i cheated on him. You are reading it wrong. I said "he cheated on me numerous of times...5 times to be exact!" I wish you would read it more careful next time.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (29 July 2011):
You cheated on him 5 times and broke up with him..let's not go so far as to say you love him.
You two sound better off being single! Seriously, you are both making each other miserable! Why put yourself or another human being through that?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): He is prideful, because you are falling for him, leave him don't entertain with him for atleast one year, let him cry for you for a while and let him realize his mistake that every time he does it to you and you be strong, he will never go any where even if he goes, he will come back to you surely and even if you loose him don't worry this world is very big and you will find better one.
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